Born in Havre, Montana, I relocated with my family to Garfield County, Montana, to my grandparents' ranch when I was 12. I was homeschooled from kindergarten through 9th grade, then entered public school. I married my high school sweetheart in 2002. Gerard and I and our first daughter spent a year in South Dakota while he went to tech school, then we moved to Laurel, MT. In 2013, our family of now 3 children moved from the suburbs to the middle of Billings, MT. We homeschooled our two daughters and our son for most of their education, and our oldest was married in the fall of 2021. Our most recent adventure is Gerard and I opening a construction/handyman business. In our spare time, my hubby and I enjoy hunting and fishing, we love big family meals, and I relax to classic movies and jazz.
I have had a long history of losses and it began very young. Here are a few of them: we lost our house to back taxes when I was 10, and my best friend’s dad bought it at the auction. There were several losses of trust and safety. A serious high school relationship ended badly and had some other relational complications. My parents divorced 6 months before my father died of a massive heart attack at age 52. There were irreparably damaged relationships around his death. There have been more. Despite counseling and many attempts with self-help books and other practical things to move forward, I still felt stuck. I was making progress, I was healthier, but I would fall back into emotional struggles that I thought had long since been resolved. There were pieces still missing, and anger was my go-to emotion and coping release.
I was given the Grief Recovery Handbook in 2020 and it could have been written specifically for me. It stated that grief was "the normal and natural reaction to change or loss of any kind" and how that looks in my life, my mind, was ok. That validation was powerful. It also opened my eyes to areas that I had been denying even existed with the statement that grief was also "the conflicting feelings caused by the end of, or change in, a familiar pattern of behavior." I had believed the lie that I wasn’t supposed to feel certain ways about certain events or people or circumstances. Then I connected with a Grief Recovery Specialist. Completing my loss was the missing piece. Now I want to help other people find their missing piece.
I can help if you’re stuck. I can walk with you through your grief and give you the tools to navigate it. My broken heart is healing, and I can help you move towards healing as well. Loss is not small or large, it’s LOSS, and it’s significant. You CAN recover, you CAN heal, and I would be privileged to help you in that journey. Your grief is unique, but you are not alone.