Robin Heart Suttin is an Advanced Grief Recovery Method Specialist and Life Coach. She has been trained by the Grief Recovery Institute to offer the 1-on-1 Grief Support Online program.
When my friend died in a car accident, I desperately searched for a way to get rid of the pain I was feeling. I got really busy doing volunteer work because I wanted to honor my friend's life by helping others. I thought, back then, that staying busy helping others would heal my aching heart. Yet, at the end of the day, no matter how hard I worked, no matter how busy I stayed, there was still a huge hole in my heart.
In 2004 I was told by doctors that I had endometriosis. Days before going in for surgery, I broke up with my boyfriend of four years. Waking up from surgery, I was given the devastating news -- damage had been done and I couldn't conceive naturally. I was heartbroken over the death of my hopes and dreams to get married and start a family. A few short months later, I heard the news -- my ex was getting married to a beautiful young woman, and not long after that I heard some more news -- they were having a baby. Flashbacks of tender moments, talking excitedly with my ex about getting married and starting a family together now felt like a knife piercing my heart. How would I survive this pain? I had always heard that time heals all pain, so, I swallowed all of those painful emotions, put on my "happy face" and stayed as busy as I could, waiting for the day when time would somehow heal my pain. It didn't.
Years later, after several more heartbreaks, I finally got married. I thought, back then on my wedding day, that getting married would erase all pain from past romantic relationships. Oh boy, was I wrong! One year into our marriage, I was so emotionally stuck. I had so many unresolved issues from past romantic relationships that I was unable to open my heart fully to love and trust my husband. There was a huge wall between us.
During my training at the Grief Recovery Institute, I was required to personally go through the Grief Recovery Method program first before they would certify me to teach others. I learned how to grieve the loss of my hopes and dreams for my life. I learned how to grieve the loss of those so close to my heart. I learned how to work through the pain attached to the broken places in my heart that I had been too afraid to look at. The wall around my heart finally came down and I felt like I'd lost a ton of heavy emotional weight that I had been carrying around for years.
In 2015 I got certified as a Grief Recovery Method Specialist and I have been teaching these healing tools to others since then. In 2018 I received additional training and certification to teach the Grief Recovery Method program online. I love seeing participants experience emotional healing and transformation!
"Following the death of my partner, I didn't think there would ever be a way for me to address my pain. Robin created a space where I could feel safe and supported to heal, and heal I did. While I enjoyed the process, I was skeptical about it actually working. ...By the final session, I was different. I feel safer and more present in my life and practice. I feel grounded and complete and for this I am eternally grateful. " - Eve
"I think it's really powerful to have a specialist who has gone through the course and the grief recovery process herself. I don't think that had I just read the book on my own, that I would have been able to first of all push myself through doing all of the assignments and completing things. The grief recovery program sets you up for success. I feel more forgiving of myself for things I just didn't know." - Sandra
“Having a method and the tools to work through things from my past and to know how to deal with things in my future is huge for me.” - Carol
Oh how long a week is... that with this work I could feel like a brand new person-- not one that hides or cowers or fears her past... but one that is willing to take an honest look at the past in order to stand more firmly in the present. I have never felt more open; more alive. Robin is by far one of the sweetest people I have ever had the pleasure of speaking with. She gave me so much support and she accepted me completely without judgment or question. She encouraged me to accept myself and accept my feelings with total honesty and clarity. I am grateful for this work. I am so grateful for Robin.1-on-1 Online SupportParticipant in Brooklyn, NY10/21/2019
I am beyond grateful for this experience because I feel that aside from helping me now be freed from the past and misconceptions, unforgiven situations related to my ex partner and chains of resentment that had me bound, I can look forward to a brighter future, especially for the sake of our beautiful children. I am confident now, which is a real gift, that if something comes up, I will have these tools to use and deal with it.1-on-1 Online Support06/15/2019
I learned to perceive loss of parent in a different way. I can face my loss instead of avoiding it.1-on-1 SupportParticipant in Nashville, Tennessee05/18/2019
To the very last session, I was anxious that this method might not work, might not help me recover from a lifetime of being wounded. I was wrong. Your method, along with an outstanding facilitator, have given me the tools to get out of the quicksand & begin to move forward with hope. Already I have recommended three people to your program because it works.1-on-1 SupportParticipant in Keller , Tx03/12/2019
I needed validation for my pain and grief and found it with this program. I had no idea how much pain I was dealing with residually beyond the immediate loss I was experiencing. I'm so thankful for the knowledge provided on myths and STERBs, identifying when they intrude on my road to recovery and conquering the pain that comes with the aftermath of peoples' responses to my loss. I also learned how to better listen to others when they are in need of a "heart with ears". This program has helped me to be a better person to myself and others, and has shown that applying the methods can actually help in other relationships in my life. I feel empowered in that I can be better prepared with the tools to deal with future loss, which is inevitable. Thank you!1-on-1 SupportParticipant in Fort Worth, TX07/27/2018
I instantly felt lighter upon completing the program as well as excited to roll up my sleeves and tackle other relationships and losses in my life that have been holding me back and keeping me feeling hurt and disappointed. I am actually currently losing my ex husband to terminal illness and we have 3 teenage boys together , I am grateful for the method and for the specialist who dedicated her career to this work, I think everybody I know needs it .Support GroupsParticipant in Keller, TX06/30/2018