Hi! I'm Pamela Jones, I am from Oliver, British Columbia, Canada. I'd like to tell you a small part of my story...My own grief from the loss of my father in early 2019 brought me to the Grief Recovery method.
I spent many days and nights laying in my bed for months except to get up for necessary errands or work. I have had many losses over my lifetime as many of us do. Only one other compared to the deep loss of my father, but it really wasn't a comparison. Only the DEPTHS of the losses would be a comparison and even then they were different... Grief is EMOTIONAL - not logical. I was trying to make sense of this whole event and I was losing my mind. One minute my dad was here then he wasn't. I was there when he passed. I couldn't mentally process anything more so I shut down. I didn't think anyone cared or understood MY relationship with MY dad.
We as human beings want to make sense of our losses with our heads but it is our hearts that need to deal with the EMOTIONAL loss.
For months I was NUMB. I didn't want to be here but I also didn't want to be anywhere. I just wanted to be heard . Let me tell my story just once, not in little bits and pieces to different people.
My father passed 10 months after his skin cancer diagnosis. I was his caregiver during this time and had been for several years while raising my own family and my own responsibilities. I was a caregiver for his wife who passed a few years earlier of cancer. I was the executor for his estate and I helped my dad with the duties of his wife's estate. For the previous 8 years I was constantly going, going, going. I've been overwhelmed for years. I was still trying to get dad's diagnosis to sink in after he passed away. Every time my dad changed over the last few years, I grieved. I still hadn't even grieved his wife's death.
When my father passed even though it was an "expected death", yes I had papers to prove it in case attendants came to his home, I was "OK" at first. I was handling it. I put on the brave front. Sometimes I was OK , other times I was not. I was honest about it most of the time. Thank God I learned about the 6 myths of grieving. Within weeks though I sank. I tanked. I knew I wasn't ever going to get over my father and I didn't want to. I didn't want to lose any of my memories. We had always been so close, even though we had huge disagreements over the years he was MY DAD. Finally I knew I had to get THROUGH this because technically I was still alive. Well I had a heartbeat and I was still breathing.
Well eventually it was time to get up out of bed. Get out of my self imposed asylum. I finally got to a point that I knew I didn't want "to get over it" but I knew I had to get through it. So I started searching for help. I had come across the Grief recovery Method a few months before I totally took to my room, only coming out to deal with what had to be dealt with as an executor or the two teens of mine. More chaos....
I went back to the GRM website and read everything I could and planned on taking the course and the certification. Then Covid hit . By March 2020 was total lockdown all over the world.
Thank you Grief Recovery for making this available online so I could train online! I ended up training in June 2020, became certified, and moved through my grief so quickly. I have no regrets taking this course for myself and for my future clients.
I am now available to teach you 1 to 1 or in a group setting either online or in person. I teach the Grief Recovery Method, Help Children with Loss and Grief Recovery for Pet Loss.
Please note there are no refunds.
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