A Grief Support Blog

This blog will allow you the opportunity to acquire both support and guidance after experiencing a significant loss.

Same people, new name, new logo - Grief Recovery Method

Grief Recovery Method

We live in a world that is constantly changing. With the Internet, cell phones, and social media it seems like the world is moving at the speed of light.

In our nearly 35-year history of “delivering grief recovery assistance to the largest number of people in the shortest period of time,” we too must change and update how we reach people.

Many years ago the word grief was seldom used in print or electronic media. When we created the words, grief recovery, we were the only ones using them. In the ensuing years, the words grief recovery have become almost generic. They are used by all manner of self-help groups, bereavement organizations, and religious groups in the United States. And while we support all of these groups and organizations, they are not using The Grief Recovery Method.

So we have updated our website and rebranded our name to reflect more clearly what we do. Our time-tested and 100% successful approach to recovery from loss will remain the same. Our Certified Grief Recovery Specialists® will continue to offer Support Groups, one-on-one programs, and educational programs for parents who want to help children deal with the inevitable loss that will affect their lives.

With this new rebranding of The Grief Recovery Institute® we hope to eliminate any confusion. Our nonprofit activities will continue as before. We appreciate all of the support we have received in bringing The Grief Recovery Method to the foster care system, the dignified transfer program of the US military, and all of the other worthwhile organizations that we have supported over the past 35 years. Our helpful articles section will remain the same but will be found in the blogs area. Please follow the link here to become a friend on our new Facebook Fan Page and if you haven’t done so yet, follow us here on Twitter. For videos covering The Grief Recovery Method, please visit our new YouTube Channel here.


Your website is Powerfull and Impressive. It is Realistic and Very True to what is going on with with people all around the world. From reading your concept, I know I look forward to somehow being part of it. There are so many subjects in which we can all benefit from "The Grief Recovery Method".

Great site! plenty of information and powerful testimonials. thanks for the upgrades and keep it coming! looking forward to reaching even more grievers in the time we've got... If you've been looking for a great community-based intervention for grief - this is it! Public health data show that the more "adverse experiences" folks have, the higher the rate of "risk behaviors" and then ill health effects. We won't be as successful at reducing those health problems or health risk behaviors until we address the underlying factors - often associated with unresolved grief. Stand in there Grief Recovery Institute! What you do is SO important!

The Grief Recovery Method is a powerful tool that works. I speak from experience following the loss of my wonderful wife. Congratulations of the evolution of your program. The new website is a big improvement over the former one. Bless you for the wonderful work you do in recovery!

The new site and logo is beautiful! The YouTube videos make the information accessible to more people. Keep up the great work! I agree the Grief Recovery Method is a "100% successful approach." What a joy it is to help people through their painful experiences to find their hope and peace restored.

I am a part of a grassroots nonprofit group, "MidSouth Comfort Care Coalition" and we are always loking for ways to share information so I found this site to be an effective tool as we share to faith groups around our area. Thank you!

Thanks for all of the comments. We appreciate you taking the time to write about your experience with The Grief Recovery Method.

Do you have any groups in the Johnson City Tennessee area?

Is it normal for a grieving person, even 10 years after it happened, to have so much trouble reading entries about grief that she can't read all the through the post?

I met somebody who said I was "being ridiculous to be this upset 10 years later."

I'd agree with that if we hadn't ALSO been badgered and bothered the whole 10 years by media, who refuse to ever let us "get on with our lives" b/c they keep bringing up story after story after story about what happened on September 11. I thought that finding Osama bin Laden would help put some of it to rest - I don't expect it ALL to be put to rest, just some of it. But they bring up stories all through the year about it and not just on that day, which is so bad that last year we went to the Catskills to get away from reporters.

I just wonder why the guy who called ME ridiculous didn't ALSO call the press the same.

That kind of went off the topic but that's what's distressing me so much right now I can barely think.

And it's an election year too. They trot it all out every four years with the same regularity it had 10 years agol

I've just read the Time article to get a smuamry of the author's thinking. As a clergyperson for almost 30 years, I've seen a number of people live through loss and grief in a variety of ways, and have done so myself. I have found that people often experience the feelings that Kubler-Ross's identified (as well as others), but it is been clear to me for many years that we do not expereince those feelings in systematic stages, but rather in unpredictable roller-coaster fashion not unlike the oscillating graph shown on this site. My own (admittedly anectodatal) take on grief is that the plethora of intense feelings we typically have for some period of time are the psyche's way of honoring the importance to us of the person (or job or marriage or ) that have been lost. Once we have done that to the degree each needs, we are ready to move on in our lives. What I continue to observe is that while the varieties of approaches to grief process described and debunked in the Time article are widespread in the culture, it is also the case that in practical terms our culture often leaves little space and time for grieving. People are routinely expected to be able to return to normal functioing, especially in the work world, within a week or two of a major loss as if nothing significant had happened. There seems to be a disconnect between the possibly over-developed psychological approach to the inner work of grief and an under-developed acknowledgement in the public world of the functional challenges that people in the early, intense time of grieving often face.

Dear Milena, Over the years we’ve developed some specific language that tries to capture what you said in the phrase “plethora of intense feelings.” We say “Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by a change or end in a familiar pattern of behavior.” The classic example is when you’ve attended to someone you love dying over a long period of time of cancer. Often when that person dies, you may feel relief that they are no longer in pain and suffering, but you are simultaneously heartbroken that they are no longer here. If you want to read more about our take on Stages, please read our article: The myth of the stages of dying, death, and grief.

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor from Colorado. In 2009, I went through the most difficult year in my entire life and didn't think that I would live through it. I was not working as a psychotherapist at the time, but i wondered if I would ever recover enough to survive or even be a therapist ever again and then came your notifcation of training in Denver. I immediately decided that I needed to go through the training for my own healing and felt it was an answer to prayer. I went through the training and then healing began to take place that was needed so badly. It definitely was a miracle and the process eventually came to fruition.

Your training provided me with the skills and personal experience I needed to start a private practice focused on the Grief Recovery Method a few months ago. I believe wholeheartedly that this method is the answer to so many people who have suffered a loss.

Recently, I opened my practice and believe this method will certainly help many others. I am so grateful for the opportunity that you provided me and that I was ready for it. Thank you so much for your training and support!

Carol Cummings, MA, LPC, NCC

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