A Grief Support Blog

This blog will allow you the opportunity to acquire both support and guidance after experiencing a significant loss.

Is it Ever Too Soon to Begin to Recover From Loss?

When your heart is broken it’s hard to imagine feeling better. Often grievers wonder if they will be in pain forever. Sadly, some people are in pain for the rest of their lives because of the misinformation we’ve all been taught about dealing with grief.


The most common piece of misinformation is “grief just takes time”. 


So grievers wait, 


….and wait, 


…..and wait. 


Unfortunately, they don’t feel better no matter how long they wait. Time might lessen the intensity of their pain, but it doesn’t heal, actions do.



When is it time to begin to recover?


Grief recovery can begin almost immediately following a loss.


That doesn’t mean grievers will be happy the loss occurred or they don’t care about the loss. It simple means they can immediately take action. 


As a matter of fact, the brain does it automatically. 


After a death or breakup, have you ever thought of things you wish you had said to the person who died or to your ex? 


Grievers want to talk about what happened and want to talk about both the good and bad aspects of the relationship.



Almost every relationship ends with things we wish were:


1. Different

2. Better 

3. More


Those thoughts are the beginning on the road to recovery.



If you’re still wondering if it’s too soon to begin to recover, answer these two questions straight from The Grief Recovery Handbook: a step-by-step program for moving beyond death, divorce and others losses.


1. If you fell down and gashed your leg and blood was pouring out, would you immediately seek medical attention? The obvious answer is yes.


2. If circumstances and events conspired to break your heart, would you seek attention immediately, or would you allow yourself to bleed to death emotionally? Pick one!



We’ll give you the tools you need to address your grief so you don’t spend the rest of your life waiting to feel better. Our 2 ½ Day Personal Workshop is the perfect place to learn the misinformation we’ve all been taught about grief, look at past losses and learn the tools to use for future losses.


Thanks very helpful just lost my dad a few days ago. I do a lot of grief counseling but have never lost anyone before in my life. It really can change your thoughts and feelings and empathy with others. (In a good way) Thanks for sharing

My wife of 44 yrs just passed away on Feb 17th, 2016. She died from Metastatic Uterine Cancer. She fought honorably and valuently for 7 years. I am so proud to be her husband, friend and sweetheart. I must find a way through the maze of grief to make sense for the rest of my life. We have two married children and 5 grandchildren. I Have alot to live for and desire to live healthy and with purpose. I am open to growing with this experience. Thank you.

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