Having a broken heart on Valentine’s Day sounds just awful doesn’t it? Imagine if your spouse died, you just went through a break-up or you’re simply feeling lonely. Of course you can never know exactly how someone else feels, but I’m sure you have an idea of what that would feel like for you, and it sure doesn’t feel good. Add on that social media is full of photos of couples in love and TV is full of ads for flowers and the like. There are just so many triggers to remind them of their heartbreak.
So how do you show someone who is sad that you care? One of the kindest things you can do is give them a call to ask how they’re feeling. Isn’t it amazing how such a seemingly small gesture can mean so much?!
Here’s why that small action on your part can mean the world to someone with a broken heart:
- It shows them that you are thinking of them.
- Immediately following a loss people are usually inundated with calls, emails and flowers. After a while the attention slows down, but that doesn’t mean that their heart feels any better.
- Have you ever avoided someone because you didn’t know what to say? A lot of people do. Someone that is in emotional pain may feel like people are avoiding them because they don’t want to hear about the loss. Be different and reach out. You can even say, “I don’t know what to say, but wanted to check in. How are you”. Then just be quiet and let them talk.
- Calling to ask how they feel reinforces the correct idea that their sad and painful feelings are normal and natural, and that it’s okay to talk about. Your actions are showing them that they don’t have to act strong or pretend they are okay if they aren’t.
- People going through a painful loss tend to isolate which makes it worse.
So give them a call and listen to them without interrupting or trying to fix them. Be the kind of person that shows compassion with your actions and show someone you care about that they are not alone, even if they feel like they are.
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