Tracey Mills

Hello, I'm Tracey, a Certified Advanced Grief Recovery Method Specialist based in the UK, in East Sussex between Brighton and Eastbourne. I will teach you, step-by-step, how to overcome the pain of loss and grief. I offer one-to-one personal sessions (in person or online) and local group workshops. I want to help you feel the joy of life again because I know it IS possible after loss. Grief, however you experience it, is a normal and natural feeling. You should never pretend to be 'ok' or accept that 'ok' is enough, because we can all experience peace and joy in our lives once the emotional baggage we drag around is acknowledged and removed. Since my lovely mum died in 2016, I have wanted to help others with their grief. When I made the connection between my grief and the debilitating physical symptoms and illness I experienced during the first 12 months following mum's death, I realised how important it is to overcome the challenges of negative emotions. But I didn't know how. For almost four years I just existed, feeling overwhelmed with emotions that prevented me from functioning fully, whilst experiencing the last stages of menopause and fighting my feelings relating to a family estrangement. Regret and what I thought was guilt were eating away at me. I imagined my partner was going to die suddenly in his sleep, so I struggled to sleep and get up in the mornings. Addicted to comfort food, I put on two stones. I kept busy and thought that eventually time would heal me, because that is what we are told. It wasn't until I found the Grief Recovery Method that I understood - it isn't time that heals, it's what you do with that time. The method helped me to be completely honest with myself, I understood I had put my mum ‘on a pedestal’ after her death, remembering only memories that made myself believe I was an inadequate daughter. After working on my first two losses, the negative conversations in my head ceased and my doubts and fears fluttered away, replaced by peace and a feeling of true joy for life that I hadn't felt since I was a child. I felt unblocked, mentally and spiritually. I lost weight, became a year-round cold water swimmer and found peace in meditation. I no longer feared future loss and I could finally move forward. The Grief Recovery Method has taught me to listen and I will always listen to you without any judgement whatsoever. I will help you to understand that we will never forget our loved ones but we don’t have to grieve with pain, and we can remove the negative effects those unfinished emotions had on our lives and possibly on our health. I would love to help you to move forward too because you deserve a future filled with joy.