Here are 6 ways to stay focused at work during a breakup:
1) Remember there is nothing wrong with you. Grief is normal and natural and so is having a brain that wanders when you’re grieving. When you start thinking about your ex, gently try to bring your thoughts back to what you are working on.
2) Ask for help. Grievers want to be heard with dignity and respect. When you start thinking about your heartache, quickly pick up the phone and tell a friend. Depending on your work environment you might even be able to share what’s going on with a trusted coworker. Sometimes it helps to quickly share your thoughts and feelings, so you are able to return to work with a clear mind.
3) Focus on small tasks. Instead of worrying about the huge project you have to do, work on one tiny aspect of the project. Try to focus on little things. Like they say, “take it one step at a time”.
4) Turn off your phone and stay away from social media. It’s hard to focus on work when you’re constantly checking to see if your ex has contacted you.
5) Be prepared to miss old habits. If you spoke with your ex everyday during your lunch breaks, lunchtime might be a painful reminder of your breakup. Be prepared by asking a close friend or coworker if they’ll be available to talk during lunch if you need them.
6) Work the Grief Recovery Method. If you have been given the tools to recover from loss, be sure use them, EVEN IF YOU ARE AFRAID. Ultimately the best things you can do is get complete with the past because it will help you stay in the present moment.
- The Grief Recovery Handbook: A step-by-step guide to moving beyond death, divorce and others losses can be purchased HERE or you can find it for free at your local library.
- Our Grief Support Groups are facilitated by Certified Grief Recovery Specialist’s and run for 8-12 weeks. Here’s where you can find support in your area.
- Our 2 Day Personal Workshop is an intense weekend where you'll learn all the tools you need to recover from this loss and future losses. See schedule for our grief workshops.