Some years ago, Robin Williams was famously quoted as saying that “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” On the face of it, this sounds very logical. The problem is that the thought of ending one’
Facebook and other social media platforms have initiated major changes in how we communicate. For the most part, these changes have been wonderful! We can now see and hear about events happening with family and friends in real time. Instead of waiting for someone to send us a picture, we can see it immediately.
The thought of finding love again after a divorce is the dream of many who experience the breakup of a marriage. Some quickly jump back into the dating pool, while others are a bit more cautious, for fear of being hurt again. Many divorced people have an unconscious tendency to hear the “voice” of their previous spouse in the words shared by a new person they are dating.
The reasons that people move are many and varied. Sometimes it is inspired by a new job or a wish to be closer to family members. It might be about moving to a better house, neighborhood, or school district. It can be a move related to going to college or graduate school. It might also be caused by the loss of a job, relationship, or financial challenges.
Transgenerational grief, sometimes called transgenerational trauma, refers to situations where a grief event was so powerful within a family that it was carried on to the next generation and sometimes multiple generations thereafter.
There are two major ways to become a victim. One is to be the victim of outside factors, such as another’s actions (whether intended or unintended) or events that are beyond our control. The other is to become a victim of our own choices. What many people do not realize is that these two different sources of victimization often work in concert together.
I was invited to contribute blog posts for the Grief Recovery Method website just over a year ago. I have enjoyed this opportunity to reach out to grievers immensely! In this past year, I have shared elements of my journey from grief to recovery in a number of these articles.
We have had several people who have written in about this subject, when another's bereavement retriggers your grief. They thought that things were progressing well for them, in dealing with their personal grief, until a friend experienced a loss. Then, suddenly, they found themselves once again deeply reminded of their own emotional pain.