This is a question that many grievers ask themselves. Very often our family members and friends do not appear to be as deeply impacted as we are by the loss that has touched our lives. This is sometimes the case, but very often it is because they are not telling (or displaying) their emotional truth.
Let's look at an example to which we can all relate.
On Saturday, November 26th, The Grief Recovery Institute lost an important member of our family. Russell Friedman, our executive director, died peacefully in his own home, surrounded by his loving wife, Alice, and family. Russell was diagnosed with cancer earlier this year, and it rapidly metastasized throughout his body.
If you are reading this post, it is very likely that you are not a professionally trained grief support specialist, but rather someone who has been thrust into this role and is seeking assistance. You are hardly alone.
With the holiday season approaching, we are constantly bombarded by images of happy families together sharing the joy of the season. If you are a griever, however, this may not be the picture that you can imagine at this point. Holidays, birthdays, or other days that were a special part of your family traditions trigger painful feelings of loss and grief.
The United States has just completed the 2016 election process and we are bombarded by reports in the media concerning people’s surprise, elation, dismay, excitement and even protests after the votes were counted. One word that we have yet to hear from any prominent media outlet is “grief” related to the outcome and how it touches us on a very personal level.
Recently, we wrote about how many people tend to isolate themselves when grieving the loss of a close person in their life. We've analyzed why this is a bad plan for everyone and how being around supportive people helps the grieving process into the future.