Utilizing my education as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, my 16 years in hospice, and my personal experience has proven to be most effective in providing my clients with empathy and compassion, a deeper understanding of dealing with loss, grief, mourning, bereavement, and much-needed emotional support – all of which can result in a great sense of hope and healing. Seeing lives change is the greatest and most satisfying aspect of what I do.
My personal journey with grief started my freshman year in college when my boyfriend was killed in an automobile accident. I regretted that I never had the chance to say goodbye. Ironically, I was taking my first Death and Dying class at the time. This provided a certain level of help but there was not a great deal of grief support on our college campus in the 1980s. His death made me realize how unprepared I was to cope with my grief and the pain of loss. All my hopes, dreams, and expectations were gone! Loss is inevitable, it's the most basic human experience, but suffering is a choice. When grievers don't know what choices they can make, that's when they are stuck with the pain.
My next significant loss was that of my 42-year-old sister, who was diagnosed with an exceedingly rare cancer. This experience, taught me a lot about helping my sister prepare for her end-of-life journey. We had hospice involved which was a great resource in helping me cope with my anticipatory grief and received bereavement support. From this experience, I started my hospice career.
Not long after my sister died, in 2008 my beloved cat Gracie of fourteen years unexpectedly died. My heart was broken. It was difficult to find support groups for pet loss. So, I joined a chat room with others who had lost a pet for several months to find support and process my grief. Now with the help of the Grief Recovery Pet Loss program, I was able to grieve Gracie's loss in an appropriate way.
A subsequent devastating loss was that of my mother, who passed suddenly at the age of 79. I was aware this could happen due to her health condition, but it was traumatic for me in the manner that she died. My mother was my anchor. I now felt like an “orphaned adult” since both my parents had passed. I had to put my grief on hold until I could process it appropriately through the tools I had learned from my training.
While the deaths of those I loved caused me to grieve, I have also felt and endured other losses over the years. Shortly after my mother died, my daughter moved several states away for work. This too was a loss, we now were "empty nesters". My husband’s family business of 30 years closed which was financially another loss, and lastly, my three beloved Bichon Frise' died unexpectedly in one month during the Covid-19 pandemic. The Grief Recovery Method has helped me immensely to process my losses in a healthy way using the tools I have learned.
It is my hope that you will allow me the opportunity to teach you how to accept that loss is not a process leading to closure, but one of integration from loss. I look forward to walking with you through this journey of grief/loss. I am here as a guide to help you navigate and teach you how to process your loss with supportive guidance every step of the way.
I am located in Fishers, IN serving: Indianapolis, Noblesville, Westfield, Carmel, Zionsville, Fortville, Ingalls, McCordsville, Lawrence, Elwood, and Anderson, Indiana.
It has helped me come to terms with my loss and realize that I have at least some degree of responsibility as to how I react to the loss.Support GroupsParticipant in Indianapolis, Indiana01/26/2020
THis program has helped me separate my pain from my grief and showed me that I will forever be grieving, but wont forever be in pain.One-on-One SupportParticipant in Indianapolis, IN11/18/2019
This program was beneficial in relieving the grief I didn't even realize I was carrying. Plus it made me deal with a long-buried grief issue I had long since forgotten about. Excellent program and great facilitator!Support GroupsParticipant in Avon, IN03/27/2019
I have attended other grief programs but this program was by far the best. The 8-week course involved reading, homework, and discussion. The process used help me work through the grief of unresolved issues with my relationship with my son but it also helped me understand the different events that happened in my life that caused many unresolved situations that caused deep pain for me. The homework assignments help me develop a process to recognize them then provided a process to help me write a letter to say "I'm sorry" or "I forgive you" and then a way to say Goodbye. When you reach this point, it is very empowering to the soul. I would highly recommend this program to others whether dealing with a death, divorce, or unresolved relationships. Grief affects everyone differently. The tools in this program will help you work through your pain (whatever that may be). You won't be disappointed.Support GroupsParticipant in Avon, IN07/16/2018