If you have found me, then I can only imagine your heart is heavy, your pain is real, and you've run out of options, tools and resources to help you with your loss. I invite you to be curious about GRM as an option for healing and restoration of your authentic self. I found GRM because I wanted to find other resources for healing my old wounds around loss that surfaced and were affecting my current relationships. In truth: My heart hurt so badly and I too, wanted the pain to go away.
As a consumer, I would want to know if my facilitator could relate to me. Therefore, I will share a little about my losses:
- I have experienced many deaths in my life from death by suicide, to dying of cancer, old age, and many others.
- I have sat bedside with friends and families as they've grieved the imminent death of their loved one.
- I have had a loss of business that resulted in complete loss of everything to include our home, cars, and stability.
- I have had broken relationships that have broken my heart and I didn't know where to turn or how to heal.
- I have said "Goodbye" to many beloved pets that were an intimate part of my life and healing for me and my family.
- I have experienced grief with intangible losses such as loss of safety and trust, in our ever-changing world.
This is what I gained by completing GRM: I found that my grief was inhibiting me from joy and fulfillment. I learned that how I learned to grieve as a child was limiting me today. I realized that I had a lot of emotional loss that was "unresolved" and that I have a choice of continuing to carry these in an unhealthy, or healthy, way. I was astonished that taking action can free me of the enormous emotional burden that was plaguing my soul. I learned that it is possible to "move beyond grief!"
What I want for you is healing, in a new way:
- I'm offering to sit present with you, heart to heart (even on Zoom), and walk alongside you in your journey as you walk forward.
- I want you to know you that you are not alone.
- I long to help you identify and pracitce a new tool for grief recovery that can be used to heal other losses.
- I want you to experience hope.
I have co-facilitated Grief & Bereavement Support Groups for the last 14 years. In addition, I co-facilitated Survivors of Suicide Support Group for three years for Hope Bereavement Services at PeaceHealth Southwest Medical Center. I am on the SMART Team (School Mobilization Assistance Response Team) for Clark County that responds and supports schools after a crisis (e.g. suicides, shootings, and other trauma).
At this time, I am offering the following services:
ONLINE SUPPORT: This format, via ZOOM, means I can reach each griever, coastline to coastline. We will meet for 7 sessions, 1-1.5 hours in duration, for 7 weeks in a row. Please feel free to call or email me.
1:1 Grief Support in Cowlitz County, WA: These individual, 1 to 1.5 hour sessions (to include weekly homework), are 7 weeks in duration, 1x/week. For cost of service, location, questions, and scheduling, please feel free to call or email me.
1:1 Grief Support in & around Clark County, WA: These individual, 1 to 1.5 hour sessions (to include weekly homework), are 7 weeks in duration, 1x/week. For cost of service, location, questions, and scheduling, please feel free to call or email me.
8-Week SMALL GROUP Grief Support/Clark County. Please email or call me with your contact information if you are interested in being added to the waiting list for the next GRM group, as there is a limited capacity, and of course, limitations around meeting in groups during Covid. These groups are an average length of 2 hours, 1x/weekly, with 4-6 participants. This intimate setting provides a unique opportunity to connect with other grievers to remind you that you are not alone.
1:1 Pet Loss Grief Support: Please call or email for information.
Most importantly, I encourage you to find a GRM Specialist you connect with to begin mending the past and present "you." I know that it has made a huge difference in my life. Please feel free to call me if you have any questions.
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My experience with the GRM and more specifically Cindy Cook was nothing short of life changing. I mean that literally. When my sister violently took her life in front of me, it left me with wounds that I was unable to heal for 28 years. When I started the GRM with Cindy, I went into it with a lukewarm attitude at best. I was closed off, my walls were made of solid concrete. You could see a few chips here and there from other things that I had tried, but mine were some very thick walls. Cindy and I laugh now, but when I first started, I threw the GRM book while doing my homework…A LOT. I felt lost, but she kept telling me that was why she was there, and that eventually it would all make sense. She told me to keep showing up, to keep doing the homework, to keep trusting her, and I did. This woman has such a heart for the hurting. She truly cares, she feels so deeply for those that are stuck in their pain and she has such passion for helping those people find the keys required to release themselves from the prisons that are keeping them from living their best life. She started work on my walls, chipping away at the outside, while giving me instructions on how to chip away from the inside. We were doing a wonderful job and I would have been so happy with how far we had gotten, but one day I had an experience/revelation/epiphany that completely blew up any walls that remained. I am 100% sure that would have never happened without Cindy and GRM. I can't promise your experience will be as completely life changing as mine, but I can promise it will be life changing in some important way. You will find ways to combat the sadness, guilt and shame that may be holding you back and find joy, peace and love to replace it with. And more importantly, you may find you walk away with a lifelong heart partner, as I have found in Cindy. Thank you, Cindy, for changing it all. <3Support Groups11/19/2020
I came upon the GRM by chance from a friend. My husband had a stroke in March 2019. I was completely thrown for a loop and charged on regardless doing all the things that needed to be done for his care. His stroke was severe and he didn't come home for 91 days. At some point in the fall, I realized I needed to get some help for myself. I was very anxious all the time and I felt stressed out. I found a phycologist and went to her 3 times. It did not work out. I was looking for another one when the Covid virus happened so I didn't continue to look. By May of 2020, I was desperate to find someone to talk with. As I said, a friend came across this program on the internet. She told me about it and I looked into it and Cindy Cook. When I did call Cindy, she spent about an hour on the phone with me, listening to ‘my story'. She asked a few questions, told me about the program but really just listened. She felt the GRM program would be something that could help me. My loss is a somewhat unique situation where I am grieving the loss of my life as it was before my husband's stroke. The program is such that what happens in session, stays in session. A unique bond is created with trust, an open heart and listening ears. We worked each week following the steps of the program. Cindy is very open and shares some of her stories and losses from her life so when she was helping me, I understood that she could relate to me from a loss/grief perspective. The program is hard work. Mentally. You have to think about everything, get in touch with your feelings, every little thing that brought you to this place is part of your recovery. Cindy is patient, kind, compassionate and helps to lead you to things you don't even think about. And she does all this in the most caring way. The program gave me tools to use after the sessions were over. It gave me new ways to think about what I say to myself, about myself and how to be kind to myself. I feel more confident, stronger and able to make the decisions that will come up in the future. I choose how I want to react to a situation now instead of stressing out or getting anxious. I would highly recommend this program for anyone grieving a loss. Cindy was the right person for me and I would recommend checking out her web page. I was able to meet in person, but she also does zoom sessions very effectively.1-on-1 SupportParticipant in VANCOUVER, WA09/03/2020
I would highly recommend the Grief Recovery Program. What ever kind of loss you have experienced and the pain of grief can be addressed with this program. The steps of the program and compassionate guidance of your facilitator will help you find your strength and regain your power. The Grief Recovery program will provide you with the compassion, knowledge and skills to do exactly what the program is named. To recover from greif and to recover yourself, to find your truth, happiness, power and voice.1-on-1 SupportParticipant in Longview, Washington08/19/2020
My experience was eye opening. I felt safe in expressing my true feelings. Cindy created a safe space, free of judgement. She was truly a heart with ears. Cindy was vulnerable and allowed a space for me to be vulnerable. I came in with a lot of pain that I kept buried and to myself. I felt suffocated at times by being silenced from the people around me. Cindy helped me to break free. This is still a work in progress but she has given me a strong foundation to move forward and be better.1-on-1 SupportParticipant in Kelso, Wa08/05/2020
The structure of the class worked well for being able to confront all the emotions in an organized way to be able to move forward. The class was a good blend of heart work and brain work to be able to feel some relief and release from ruminations.Support GroupsParticipant in VANCOUVER, WA02/24/2020
In the years since my sons suicide it has felt like I've been drifting in a fog of pain. Since the class, I have been feeling a clarity and peace I haven't had for years. I feel that I am far more productive and self aware than I have been since before My sons death.Support GroupsParticipant in Vancouver, Washington02/24/2020