A Grief Support Blog

This blog will allow you the opportunity to acquire both support and guidance after experiencing a significant loss.

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Moving can be traumatic

There's a reason that the Wednesday edition of the Grief Recovery Update is arriving on Thursday. No, the dog didn't eat my homework, but he did cause a real big problem in our lives, but that's another story, for another time. The big reason was that Wednesday was escrow closing day on the house that Alice and I bought here in Southern California.

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  • Sep 04, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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No time like the present

We're hard approaching the second remembrance of the tragic events of 9/11/2001, less than a month away.

It is sometimes said that there are lessons in these kinds of events. Pundits say that we can learn from tragedy. Maybe that's so. But what exactly are the lessons? And who's teaching them?

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  • Aug 06, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Talking about grief in the media: We can help!

I was heading to the park with my dog at the end of an emotionally exhausting day of writing - in between six million phone calls [and you know I never exaggerate]. My car radio was tuned to the AM talk-radio station I usually listen to at that time of day. I like the host. He's well spoken, with strong opinions, but a nice manner.

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  • Jul 03, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Scattering the ashes of a loved one

There are more than one million empty graves in the United States; graves with inscribed head stones or metal markers, but with neither a casket, a body, nor even an urn with ashes inside. You probably don't know the explanation for this strange phenomenon. July 16, 2003 will mark the fourth anniversary of the tragic deaths of John F.

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  • Jun 27, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Where have you been? Why didn't you call?....and better ways to say I love you

Middle America - End of May, 1973: It was past midnight.  I had just been to the last official event of my senior year in high school with all my chums. I was very late coming home. As I pulled in the driveway I saw the curtains move in my mother’s bedroom window. She’d been watching out the window for me to return. I was 18. I was a responsible young woman.

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  • Jun 06, 2003
  • Lois Hall, MS
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Helping employees who are grieving

Most people don’t talk about funerals. But we are not most people, and especially not as it relates to the topic of the conclusionary rituals that signify the end of physical life on this planet. We know a lot of people who don’t "do" funerals and don’t say "goodbyes" because of the misinformation and taint associated with both.

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  • May 28, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Should I take a pill for my grief?

The idea of ink-stained fingers dates back to my childhood. I am just old enough to have written with real pens and ink wells, before the dawn of the retractable ball-point pen; a distant memory of a simpler time. Today, when I write, I worry more about carpal tunnel syndrome than I do about blotching the paper or my fingers with ink. Now it's about ergonomics, not smudges.

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  • May 02, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Do boys and girls grieve differently?

Just the other day, I gave radio interview number 1,485 on the topic of grief recovery or people's reaction to loss and what to do about it. This one as many since the events of 9/11, 2001, focused on children and grief, and helping them deal with the frightening events in the news - like the recent war in Iraq.

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  • Apr 24, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Emotional muscle memory

The biochemistry of the human brain is being deciphered rapidly. Neurotransmitters have been identified, quantified, and classified. We've learned that our brains memorize passageways from stimulus to response at nearly unperceivable speeds. What is also obvious is that once the electro-chemical coding takes place and becomes entrenched, it is very hard to dislodge. So what else is new?

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  • Apr 02, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Why do good things happen to bad people?

Look carefully. Is that the question you thought it was or have the words been turned around? At first glance you might have thought it said, "Why do bad things happen to good people?" Almost everybody knows this question and can tell you that it is also the title of a book. Many can also tell you that it's a book written from the author’s grief over the death of his son.

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  • Mar 31, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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