I am Heather D. Horton, the CEO/Founder of The H-Squared Group, LLC, a location independent grief recovery and coaching practice currently based in Washington, DC. I work with busy professionals who are struggling with grief to turn their pain into power and increase their productivity personally and professionally. I also teach parents, teachers and other caregivers how to help children deal with loss.
In 2017, I was a highly successful professional woman about to enter the ranks of Senior Executive status in the Federal government. I had checked all of the boxes to make sure I was successful in college, law school, my legal career. But I realized that I had only been existing and not fully living. I had money to buy and do any and everything I wanted, but I was not happy. Relationship after relationship would end in breakups — when I even had the courage enough to put myself out there. I threw myself into my work because that is the only space where I felt validated, even though as a woman of color such validation came at a high cost to my self-esteem and self-worth.
On May 17, 2005, my life changed forever. My mother died tragically in a car accident that I also survived. I quickly had to learn how to live without the one person who loved me unconditionally and was my constant cheerleader for 33 years. My injuries from the accident kept me homebound for months. During that time all the losses that I had avoided dealing with were staring me in the face. I thought the answer to my situation was isolation—to run away from everyone and everything that reminded of my past. Isolation only compounded my feelings of sadness and grief. I then realized I need to seek help outside of myself in order to move forward. I slowly began to come out of my shell and seek help.
Applying The Grief Recovery Method® to my own personal loss and relationships was quite profound and helped me to foster and maintain a true and authentic relationship with my father after my parents’ divorce and my mother’s tragic death. Furthermore, it has helped me to complete losses that occurred in other relationships and regain the ability to begin new relationships. I am no longer attempting to replace or avoid past relationships as a result.
- Grief Support Online
- Grief Support Groups
- Grief Support 1-on-1
- Helping Children With Loss
- Pet Loss
I am a native of Baton Rouge, LA and currently reside in Washington, DC. I have also lived in New Orleans, LA at the time of Hurricane Katrina, Phoenix, AZ and Greensboro, NC. I am an alumnus of Southern University, LSU Law Center and Georgetown University Law Center. I love attending sporting events, horseback riding, traveling the world, supporting the arts, zip lining and spa retreats.
Heather helped guide me through this 7 week Grief Recovery Method. Although, I had first started seeing her following the death of my mother, we quickly discovered other nuclear family relationships that were causing me much pain and holding me back from my full potential. I credit her and the program in opening my eyes to what grief fully encompasses, from death to a new job. I realized that all my reactions to my experiences with loss were normal. What Heather taught me was how to cope with these cumulative losses on top of the loss of my mother in a healthy way. I allowed myself to grieve and then to find completeness through the methods in the workshop. her vulnerability in sharing her own story gave me so much strength. If she could get through her own struggles, I was determined to get through mine. That was by far the biggest impact from the sessions, was her being so transparent with me about her own grief journey. I felt I was opening up to someone who completely understood where I was and where I could be in my grief journey. Thank you Heather!!!! I thank God for placing you in my path in my darkest hours of grief.1-on-1 SupportParticipant in Philadelphia, PA02/28/2019
The grief recovery method has opened a gateway for me to be able to work with different losses and relationships in my life . Being able to plot the loss history and relationship history although challenging and painful provided the necessary perspective of a more ‘whole’ sense of my relationship and loss. Being able to acknowledge and speak ( with a coach ) the undelivered communications brought transformation.1-on-1 SupportParticipant in Chicago, IL02/21/2019
I can honestly say, I have completed my pain around the lack of emotional availability that my family members unknowingly demonstrated. I will use the methods throughout many other relationships that I have. Thank you for such outstanding work!Support GroupsParticipant in Washington , DC12/31/2018
Participating in the program allowed me to identify and recognize my use of STERBS as a means of avoiding and confronting grief that was experienced. It also allowed me to adopt a different perspective regarding how to adjust my reaction as it relates to past and present relationships that have impacted me in life. I found it helpful to complete the Relationship Graph and to write the Completion Letter. It provided me with info regarding the different types of loss, which I had not taken into consideration. It provided me with some tools that can be used to address grief that may affect me in the future.Support GroupsParticipant in SE Washington, DC12/20/2018