Helping Children With Loss
This page is dedicated to people considering doing either the in person or online group called Helping Children Deal with Loss.Find Programs
Most parents want to do whatever they can to protect their children from painful moments and events that my touch their lives. In trying to “protect” them however, we often do not realize that we are inadvertently passing on to them the same bits of “misinformation” on how to deal with grief that we learned as children.
Grief is emotional, not logical.
Stop and think for a moment about what you learned on how to cope with emotionally painful events when you were a child. The chances are that your parents gave you a list of logical sounding reasons why you should not feel sad. Did any of those reasons honestly make you feel any better? Probably not! The problem is that grief is emotional, not logical.
More likely than not, you simply learned to hide those painful feelings deep inside, rather than express them, because no matter what anyone said, you never really felt any better! This is not because your parents or elders were trying to pass on misinformation to you. They were simply passing on to you the same things they were told as children! Up until now, there was really no useful information that parents could learn on how to effectively help their children successfully deal with the pain of a broken heart!
Reviews for GRM Helping Children Deal with Loss
I think it's a good program, but not for an individual dealing with the loss of a spouse/father. This program is better suited to people who work with children to learn and utilize the different strategies. For my situation, I did not learn anything new to help my children.08/17/2021
This program helped me to think through more carefully how I help my children and even myself in respect to loss. I hope that I will be able to help them with more love and compassion.08/14/2021
The entire curriculum is so critical and something that I think every person needs to know. The letter at the end is just the icing on the cake. This program has made me look at all of my relationships differently and I think it will positively affect me for the rest of my life.07/26/2021
Robin made me feel totally comfortable to talk or ask questions, to share what I needed to share, with so much love and understanding, no judgement or criticism, just a heart with big ears. I so appreciate her gentle and soothing voice and her tender spirit, sharing such valuable counsel, being so passionate and full of the subject, answering all our questions. It felt like I could tell her anything. Her openness and trust with us as well, sharing many of her own examples really helped to relate things to my own life. I'm so so grateful to have gone through this program, and learned so much, with her by my side. I'm eternally grateful for this training and coaching and I wish it for everyone!! We all need a listening ear and a support like Robin has been for me. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. I have moved on from so much pain from the past and my eyes have been opened to so many amazing new truths. It's like I've had a total mindshift and I'm ready to face new challenges with peace and love. Not that it will now come easy and there won't be any pain or hurt, but now I feel better equipped and know what to do with it.07/08/2021
I feel more equipped to be helpful when children that I am working with or in my personal life experience a loss or grief. I now recognize myths about grief that many perpetuate and see the negative ramifications of these myths as well as the STERBs that are often used to avoid or postpone dealing with these normal emotions. I do not believe I will ever approach a loss the same since completing the program, "When Children Grieve" and I think that is a very good thing! I will always now strive to be a heart with ears and will focus much less on trying to fix things. I will definitely "go first" and share my emotions to invite the young people in my life to share their feelings if they are able and willing.07/08/2021
It made me look at the myths I’d grown up with and how easily they were accepted and passed on. I have already my started changing my approach to helping others process losses.07/08/2021
Do you know a child in need of help?
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What this program offers:
- Unlike the other programs offered by the Grief Recovery Institute, which focus on taking specific personal loss action, this is an educational program, designed to give you the tools to help children.
- This approach allows you to work with a Grief Recovery Method Specialist, certified and trained by The Grief Recovery Institute, in a group educational setting with other parents and people working regularly with children.
- Each of these four meetings will last roughly two and a half hours.
- Your Specialist will take you through the materials spelled out in “When Children Grieve,” as well as how to actually utilize this information in helping each child with their individual loss issues.
- As part of this process, you will work with sample situations you will face in listening to a child and being able to offer effective assistance in dealing with their emotional feelings.
- While you may come into this program with a specific loss that has impacted your child in mind, your Specialist will lead you through the process of looking at all of the emotional losses that could touch a child’s heart, and how to help them work through these issues.
- Even though you are working in a group setting, your personal focus will be in learning how to work with your own child on an individual basis.
- These groups include a weekly commitment to total honestly and absolute confidentiality, so that you can comfortably share your feelings.
- As part of this process, we may sometimes break into small groups the cover the weekly assignments. If more than one family member attends this program, they will be in separate smaller groups, to assure a greater sense of privacy and the chance to better process what they are learning.
When Children Grieve
For Adults to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, Pet Loss, Moving, and Other Losses
“There isn’t anyone in life who hasn’t experienced some kind of loss. It’s comforting to know that we are not alone in our sadness and that practical, easy-to-read, thoughtful help is available by way of Russell Friedman, John James, and Leslie Landon Matthews’s gentle insights on the pages of When Children Grieve. Thank you, Neighbors, for your obvious care.”~ Fred Rogers, producer/host of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood and formerly the honorary chairman of Caring Place, a center for grieving children, adolescents, and their families. Learn More
“Having the option of the one to one course was attractive to me as I felt I was likely to hold back from expressing my feelings, concerning the death of my wife, in a group scenario. It quickly became apparent to me that I was getting so much more from the sessions than if I had read the Grief Recovery Handbook by myself. Some two months after finishing the course I certainly feel it has been of great benefit to me.”
As parents, or those entrusted with children in our lives, we want to help our children in every way we can, especially when they are experiencing painful events. The Helping Children With Loss program provides helpful information and proven tools to effectively help children work through the emotionally painful events that happen in life.