Helping Children With Loss
This page is dedicated to people considering doing either the in person or online group called Helping Children Deal with Loss.Find Programs
Most parents want to do whatever they can to protect their children from painful moments and events that my touch their lives. In trying to “protect” them however, we often do not realize that we are inadvertently passing on to them the same bits of “misinformation” on how to deal with grief that we learned as children.
Grief is emotional, not logical.
Stop and think for a moment about what you learned on how to cope with emotionally painful events when you were a child. The chances are that your parents gave you a list of logical sounding reasons why you should not feel sad. Did any of those reasons honestly make you feel any better? Probably not! The problem is that grief is emotional, not logical.
More likely than not, you simply learned to hide those painful feelings deep inside, rather than express them, because no matter what anyone said, you never really felt any better! This is not because your parents or elders were trying to pass on misinformation to you. They were simply passing on to you the same things they were told as children! Up until now, there was really no useful information that parents could learn on how to effectively help their children successfully deal with the pain of a broken heart!
Reviews for GRM Helping Children Deal with Loss
The program helped me to understand how to respond to children when they experience a loss. I realize that what we say to them is very important. We cannot minimize their loss. Children need to be encouraged to write a letter to their deceased loved to include forgiving the individual and apologize for anything that they may have done.12/14/2020
This was an Outstanding program and it helped me so much to get in touch with grief and loss and how i can help others.12/14/2020
The grief recovery method was a great way for me to realize my own incomplete grief as well as get ready to help my children, or the children that I work with, grieve. I am excited to think about these new methods and have them in my back pocket to help others. I would recommend this program to others who are curious about how to help their children recover from grief.12/03/2020
This program has helped me to understand the importance of apologies, forgiveness and statements of emotional energy that must be a part of the grief recovery process and that behind every person with "issues" is someone who has not gone through the completion of the grieving process. Also that feeling sad is not bad, and that anger is a mask for sadness. The only way we can effectively help children or other people grieve is if we own our own "stuff". It's not about what we have to say, it's about what they have to say.Participant in Hinton, AB12/01/2020
As sometimes happens in the lives of the little people we care for and/or love, my granddaughter has had more losses than many adults I know. I long to help her to deal productively with the losses she has experienced. During the course Helping Children With Loss, I learned to recognize grief myths and how I inadvertently propagate them in my own life, in my children's lives, and in my grandchildren's lives. I learned what I do to avoid feeling the pain of my own losses, and learned to recognize what my kids and grandkids do to avoid their pain. What is especially encouraging, is having leaned to DO something productive to move the grieving into completion. I believe that what I have learned had the potential to genuinely change the dynamics in our family for the better!11/28/2020
My experience on the pilot program of When Children Grieve opened up my eyes to so many aspects of grief. I have either heard or said some of the wrong statements regarding grief. I am a widow and I have suffered other losses in my life and I now realize I have to recover from them. The safety and nurturing that I experienced during the class was very helpful. At the very least, I will stop myself from saying some of the things that were not helpful to others experiencing loss. I am very appreciative of this opportunity to learn more on this topic and have already recommended your method to those who need it. Thank you.11/28/2020
Do you know a child in need of help?
Why wait? Find a program near you.
What this program offers:
- Unlike the other programs offered by the Grief Recovery Institute, which focus on taking specific personal loss action, this is an educational program, designed to give you the tools to help children.
- This approach allows you to work with a Grief Recovery Method Specialist, certified and trained by The Grief Recovery Institute, in a group educational setting with other parents and people working regularly with children.
- Each of these four meetings will last roughly two and a half hours.
- Your Specialist will take you through the materials spelled out in “When Children Grieve,” as well as how to actually utilize this information in helping each child with their individual loss issues.
- As part of this process, you will work with sample situations you will face in listening to a child and being able to offer effective assistance in dealing with their emotional feelings.
- While you may come into this program with a specific loss that has impacted your child in mind, your Specialist will lead you through the process of looking at all of the emotional losses that could touch a child’s heart, and how to help them work through these issues.
- Even though you are working in a group setting, your personal focus will be in learning how to work with your own child on an individual basis.
- These groups include a weekly commitment to total honestly and absolute confidentiality, so that you can comfortably share your feelings.
- As part of this process, we may sometimes break into small groups the cover the weekly assignments. If more than one family member attends this program, they will be in separate smaller groups, to assure a greater sense of privacy and the chance to better process what they are learning.
When Children Grieve
For Adults to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, Pet Loss, Moving, and Other Losses
“There isn’t anyone in life who hasn’t experienced some kind of loss. It’s comforting to know that we are not alone in our sadness and that practical, easy-to-read, thoughtful help is available by way of Russell Friedman, John James, and Leslie Landon Matthews’s gentle insights on the pages of When Children Grieve. Thank you, Neighbors, for your obvious care.”~ Fred Rogers, producer/host of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood and formerly the honorary chairman of Caring Place, a center for grieving children, adolescents, and their families. Learn More
“Having the option of the one to one course was attractive to me as I felt I was likely to hold back from expressing my feelings, concerning the death of my wife, in a group scenario. It quickly became apparent to me that I was getting so much more from the sessions than if I had read the Grief Recovery Handbook by myself. Some two months after finishing the course I certainly feel it has been of great benefit to me.”
As parents, or those entrusted with children in our lives, we want to help our children in every way we can, especially when they are experiencing painful events. The Helping Children With Loss program provides helpful information and proven tools to effectively help children work through the emotionally painful events that happen in life.