Helping Children With Loss
This page is dedicated to people considering doing either the in person or online group called Helping Children Deal with Loss.Find Programs
Most parents want to do whatever they can to protect their children from painful moments and events that my touch their lives. In trying to “protect” them however, we often do not realize that we are inadvertently passing on to them the same bits of “misinformation” on how to deal with grief that we learned as children.
Grief is emotional, not logical.
Stop and think for a moment about what you learned on how to cope with emotionally painful events when you were a child. The chances are that your parents gave you a list of logical sounding reasons why you should not feel sad. Did any of those reasons honestly make you feel any better? Probably not! The problem is that grief is emotional, not logical.
More likely than not, you simply learned to hide those painful feelings deep inside, rather than express them, because no matter what anyone said, you never really felt any better! This is not because your parents or elders were trying to pass on misinformation to you. They were simply passing on to you the same things they were told as children! Up until now, there was really no useful information that parents could learn on how to effectively help their children successfully deal with the pain of a broken heart!
Reviews for GRM Helping Children Deal with Loss
The 2hr/4week program was excellent and just the right amount of time. Enough time for discussions in class and light reading as homework. Very well structured course.Participant in St. Albert , AB02/09/2020
Taking this program has motivated me to want to take the grief recovery method program for the loss I have experienced in my life.Participant in St. Albert, Alberta02/04/2020
It has opened my eyes to a lot of my own losses that I never dealt with and it has also opened my eyes as to how we talk to our kids and always wanting to make things better, but it’s ok to be sad, mad etcParticipant in St albert, Ab02/04/2020
I found the Grief Recovery Method to be a wonderful and positive way of working through issues I have held onto since childhood. My parents divorced when I was 5 and I really never paid attention to how much it affected me throughout my lifetime. Through this process, I have realized the ways I have sabotaged my success because of fear. My inner child was so crushed from the past that I was having trouble understanding why I could not move forward on certain issues as an adult. One of the profound things I learned is how important it is to express apologies, forgiveness and significant emotional statements aloud to another living person. I still don’t quite understand why that is so powerful, but it is! I feel like I have permission to “feel”. Thank you for this class. It was life changing!Participant in Tucson, AZ01/29/2020
By taking this class, I learned to correct some myth that's used in our daily language and conversation which may have devastating effects on all of us. I also became aware of how important it is to complete your loss, regardless of age.Participant in Tucson, AZ, AZ01/29/2020
I went to the program after the death of my husband. Being the mother of 12 children, I soon realized different children were reacting differently and I was ill equip to handle my own grief and theirs as well. I was looking for help. This program helped me see my children through different eyes. It gave me practical information that could be put into place immediately. I learned how to listen and not just react or try to fix the problems. We utilized the "Good-bye" letters as a birthday present this past Christmas. It was a life changing program for us!!!Participant in Newport, RI12/03/2019
Do you know a child in need of help?
Why wait? Find a program near you.
What this program offers:
- Unlike the other programs offered by the Grief Recovery Institute, which focus on taking specific personal loss action, this is an educational program, designed to give you the tools to help children.
- This approach allows you to work with a Grief Recovery Method Specialist, certified and trained by The Grief Recovery Institute, in a group educational setting with other parents and people working regularly with children.
- Each of these four meetings will last roughly two and a half hours.
- Your Specialist will take you through the materials spelled out in “When Children Grieve,” as well as how to actually utilize this information in helping each child with their individual loss issues.
- As part of this process, you will work with sample situations you will face in listening to a child and being able to offer effective assistance in dealing with their emotional feelings.
- While you may come into this program with a specific loss that has impacted your child in mind, your Specialist will lead you through the process of looking at all of the emotional losses that could touch a child’s heart, and how to help them work through these issues.
- Even though you are working in a group setting, your personal focus will be in learning how to work with your own child on an individual basis.
- These groups include a weekly commitment to total honestly and absolute confidentiality, so that you can comfortably share your feelings.
- As part of this process, we may sometimes break into small groups the cover the weekly assignments. If more than one family member attends this program, they will be in separate smaller groups, to assure a greater sense of privacy and the chance to better process what they are learning.
When Children Grieve
For Adults to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, Pet Loss, Moving, and Other Losses
“There isn’t anyone in life who hasn’t experienced some kind of loss. It’s comforting to know that we are not alone in our sadness and that practical, easy-to-read, thoughtful help is available by way of Russell Friedman, John James, and Leslie Landon Matthews’s gentle insights on the pages of When Children Grieve. Thank you, Neighbors, for your obvious care.”~ Fred Rogers, producer/host of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood and formerly the honorary chairman of Caring Place, a center for grieving children, adolescents, and their families. Learn More
“Having the option of the one to one course was attractive to me as I felt I was likely to hold back from expressing my feelings, concerning the death of my wife, in a group scenario. It quickly became apparent to me that I was getting so much more from the sessions than if I had read the Grief Recovery Handbook by myself. Some two months after finishing the course I certainly feel it has been of great benefit to me.”
As parents, or those entrusted with children in our lives, we want to help our children in every way we can, especially when they are experiencing painful events. The Helping Children With Loss program provides helpful information and proven tools to effectively help children work through the emotionally painful events that happen in life.