Helping Children With Loss
This page is dedicated to people considering doing either the in person or online group called Helping Children Deal with Loss.
Most parents want to do whatever they can to protect their children from painful moments and events that my touch their lives. In trying to “protect” them however, we often do not realize that we are inadvertently passing on to them the same bits of “misinformation” on how to deal with grief that we learned as children.
Grief is emotional, not logical.
Stop and think for a moment about what you learned on how to cope with emotionally painful events when you were a child. The chances are that your parents gave you a list of logical sounding reasons why you should not feel sad. Did any of those reasons honestly make you feel any better? Probably not! The problem is that grief is emotional, not logical.
More likely than not, you simply learned to hide those painful feelings deep inside, rather than express them, because no matter what anyone said, you never really felt any better! This is not because your parents or elders were trying to pass on misinformation to you. They were simply passing on to you the same things they were told as children! Up until now, there was really no useful information that parents could learn on how to effectively help their children successfully deal with the pain of a broken heart!
Reviews for GRM Helping Children Deal with Loss
It helped me see how things other than a death can be viewed as grief and gave me some coping skills to help children with all kinds of grief.Participant in Salina, KS03/27/2023
I have only briefly tried to apply these learnings as our class recently finished. The program opened my eyes to things that I had not considered. It helped reframe how I thought about certain things. The first time I read about a couple of the ideas I wasn't in agreement and so I questioned them and even after the answer was given I still wasn't sure, however by the end of the course and having read the book and done the work I was convinced. I have a new and I believe better perspective that will help me be a better teach for children and a better person overall. e.g. knowing that I don't need to "fix it" is a huge relief. Confirming things I already believe and try to practice e.g. listening with love and kindness gave me confidence and flexibility to absorb and practice new/different ideas. Of particular importance are the foundational tools: Emotional Energy Checklist and "Letter". These tools will help ensure that I stay of track with the best way to help children. Lastly, this class led me to sign up for The Grief Recovery Method course which I believe will help me help children better because I will soon be in a better place myself.Participant in Salina, KS03/27/2023
The timing of this course was perfect in my situation. I was asked by the counselors at my school to attend to help but then ended up loosing my mom less than a month before this class started. That added an interesting take on the course and ended up helping me through my grief.Participant in Sabina, Ohio03/24/2023
great job helping individuals explore their personal journey with grief and emphasizing that everyone's journey is different.Participant in Sabina, Ohio03/24/2023
It has helped me use more appropriate language, ask open ended questions. I think I am a better listener. I love the checklist and have already used it. It created a great atmosphere to get to know my peers better. Facilitated open and honest communication. Gave me tools to use with kids and parents. Clarified issues I had with personal loss. Provided resources I can share with co-workers.Participant in Sabina, Ohio03/24/2023
This program has helped in various aspects of my job; furthermore, I feel this program has helped enter act with co-workers, student, and my family when it comes to grief. I learned that grief is not only a death that it also can be a divorce, move, or even a change in family.Participant in Sabina, Ohio03/24/2023
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What this program offers:
- Unlike the other programs offered by the Grief Recovery Institute, which focus on taking specific personal loss action, this is an educational program, designed to give you the tools to help children.
- This approach allows you to work with a Grief Recovery Method Specialist, certified and trained by The Grief Recovery Institute, in a group educational setting with other parents and people working regularly with children.
- Each of these four meetings will last roughly two and a half hours.
- Your Specialist will take you through the materials spelled out in “When Children Grieve,” as well as how to actually utilize this information in helping each child with their individual loss issues.
- As part of this process, you will work with sample situations you will face in listening to a child and being able to offer effective assistance in dealing with their emotional feelings.
- While you may come into this program with a specific loss that has impacted your child in mind, your Specialist will lead you through the process of looking at all of the emotional losses that could touch a child’s heart, and how to help them work through these issues.
- Even though you are working in a group setting, your personal focus will be in learning how to work with your own child on an individual basis.
- These groups include a weekly commitment to total honestly and absolute confidentiality, so that you can comfortably share your feelings.
- As part of this process, we may sometimes break into small groups the cover the weekly assignments. If more than one family member attends this program, they will be in separate smaller groups, to assure a greater sense of privacy and the chance to better process what they are learning.
When Children Grieve
For Adults to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, Pet Loss, Moving, and Other Losses
“There isn’t anyone in life who hasn’t experienced some kind of loss. It’s comforting to know that we are not alone in our sadness and that practical, easy-to-read, thoughtful help is available by way of Russell Friedman, John James, and Leslie Landon Matthews’s gentle insights on the pages of When Children Grieve. Thank you, Neighbors, for your obvious care.”~ Fred Rogers, producer/host of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood and formerly the honorary chairman of Caring Place, a center for grieving children, adolescents, and their families. Learn More
“Having the option of the one to one course was attractive to me as I felt I was likely to hold back from expressing my feelings, concerning the death of my wife, in a group scenario. It quickly became apparent to me that I was getting so much more from the sessions than if I had read the Grief Recovery Handbook by myself. Some two months after finishing the course I certainly feel it has been of great benefit to me.”
As parents, or those entrusted with children in our lives, we want to help our children in every way we can, especially when they are experiencing painful events. The Helping Children With Loss program provides helpful information and proven tools to effectively help children work through the emotionally painful events that happen in life.