Testimonials For Rex Cearley
The emotions associated with loss are messy, and there was a time when I would have described them as hopelessly so. Not anymore. GRM has helped me actually articulate the exact nature of my loss and the nuances surrounding it, once translated into the recovery components (SES, forgives, apologies). GRM is an incredible tool for finding completion after a loss, in a systematic but humanistic way.
One-on-One Support06/16/2023Participant in Salina, Kansas
The program ('it') helped me look at grief in a completely different way (vs only a death). The "never ask for forgiveness" was another concept that I now look at in a completely different/better way ("make an apology instead"). It helped me remember things and those things were ones that gave be a more balanced view of the other person. It led me to a place where I could see my role in the situation with clarity - and to accept the Grace available to me so that I could heal more and judge less. It also taught me new/better ways of communication with others and strengthened my empathy for myself; showing me that I also needed to forgive and love myself as well at the other. Understanding my STERBs not looking at them as faults but rather as something I can change if I really want to (these STERBs do not control me, they work but only short term which is not good enough for me, and so if I really want what I say I want I can work towards lessening the hold they have on me (one little step at a time). Another big step was validation of the truth that we are the architects of our own discomfort (something I knew but didn't understand the degree in which it actually is a broader truth vs. a hunch, and that I have more control over changing it than I had been willing to acknowledge). I learned that if you discount it you have given yourself the okay to be a victim vs. the author of your healing. Learning the difference between Guilt and wishing things could have been Different, Better, or More (and recognizing them as tools to help bring visibility to what is incomplete). And it's very interesting that this attitude of responsibility for our own feelings and actions starts with very early "influence learning". It's a way to get stuck, not a way to release what chokes us. The program opened my eyes to Cumulative Loss and the effects on my health and happiness. It is a great reminder to share positive thoughts and feelings as they occur vs. waiting until it is too late. And lastly release the need to fix yourself and others - be willing to go through the process and allow others to do the same (we are all unique).
Helping Children With Loss05/19/2023Participant in Salina, KS
This program combined other therapy aspects I've used in the past & I learned a new way to view grief. My grief event surfaces every so often. The program was instructional but it didn't give me immediate relief. I'm hopeful that using this program will make a difference the next time I revisit this loss/grief. My specialist, Rex Cearley, did a wonderful job presenting the programs & helping me through the steps. He is a wonderful, caring, insightful man.
One-on-One Support04/28/2023Participant in Salina, Kansas
It helped me see how things other than a death can be viewed as grief and gave me some coping skills to help children with all kinds of grief.
Helping Children With Loss03/27/2023Participant in Salina, KS
I have only briefly tried to apply these learnings as our class recently finished. The program opened my eyes to things that I had not considered. It helped reframe how I thought about certain things. The first time I read about a couple of the ideas I wasn't in agreement and so I questioned them and even after the answer was given I still wasn't sure, however by the end of the course and having read the book and done the work I was convinced. I have a new and I believe better perspective that will help me be a better teach for children and a better person overall. e.g. knowing that I don't need to "fix it" is a huge relief. Confirming things I already believe and try to practice e.g. listening with love and kindness gave me confidence and flexibility to absorb and practice new/different ideas. Of particular importance are the foundational tools: Emotional Energy Checklist and "Letter". These tools will help ensure that I stay of track with the best way to help children. Lastly, this class led me to sign up for The Grief Recovery Method course which I believe will help me help children better because I will soon be in a better place myself.
Helping Children With Loss03/27/2023Participant in Salina, KS
Support Groups02/01/2023Participant in SALINA, KS
Wonderful has helped me deal with emotional loss, is helping me to grow emotionally, and is helping me see the good in others.
Helping Children With Loss02/01/2023Participant in Salina, KS
2 1/2 Day Personal Workshops09/21/2022
It has helped me understand the various aspects of the different kinds of grief, many of which I have experienced and how to respond on a personal and social level.
2 1/2 Day Personal Workshops09/21/2022
It has worked for me because it has help me understand who and why I am feeling this feeling
Support Groups09/16/2022
The Grief Recovery Program has helped me to address my own personal issues with dealing with the losses I have experienced in life. It help me to realize that my emotions are valid and necessary in working through to my recovery.
Helping Children With Loss07/28/2022
It made me have a clearer perspective on all the different emotions people show.
Helping Children With Loss07/28/2022
Outstanding way
Helping Children With Loss07/28/2022
I feel as if the backpack has been lifted that I have carried for years. I am so glad I commited to do this group in its entirety. Thanks so much for this!! More people need to know about this!! I will definitely spread the word.!!
Support Groups07/26/2022
Just completed the program last night and already today I noticed I could concentrate more easily, some anxieties were not present, I wasn't nearly so clumsy and overall,... it was simply easier to breathe. Thank you for this ❤️
Helping Children With Loss07/26/2022
One-on-One Online Support07/26/2022
Helping Children With Loss05/24/2022
Provided me with a method/plan to work through my grief.
Support Groups05/24/2022
I lost my sister and brother in law in one week. We were extremely close and I was so lost
Support Groups05/24/2022
Learned specific techniques on how to speak to children when it comes to grief. I also realized a lot of behaviors I was doing myself that I now know how to better handle.
Helping Children With Loss03/10/2022
Helping Children With Loss03/10/2022
It was outstanding
Support Groups03/02/2022
This program provided all the tools to process my losses in a gentle and healing way. Thank you!
Support Groups03/02/2022
Has helped me to health old wounds with my mother, discover all the good moments and let the hurt go, and be emotionally healthy aging. my relationship with her has improved I forgive my mom, not because what she did was right but for my own happiness.
Support Groups03/02/2022