Hi, I am Lana, I am an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist in Colorado Springs, Colorado.
I would love to share a little about me. In my childhood, I experienced emotional and physical neglect and some abuse. At the time, my parents neither one were capable of nurturing and loving me the way I could receive love. I grew up feeling unloved and invisible. Throughout this time, I learned to be an amazing caretaker of everyone else in the world but not to myself. My parents divorced during my teenaged years and from the incredible pain I felt, I vowed to never marry. I carried this unfinished business and pain of my childhood into my adult life, into my relationships, and into my marriage.
The Grief Recovery Method taught me the tool of recovering from the many losses that I had experienced in my life. It was the first time in my life, I felt truly seen and heard. It had been what I had been craving my entire life.
I was able to become complete with my mom and dad from childhood and also become complete with the loss I felt when they each died. I was able to uncover beliefs I had learned early in life that were no longer serving me in my adult life. The relief I felt after completing my first loss was nothing short of magical…
My dad has been my greatest teacher in my life through his life and through his death. During the final months of his life, the months where he was dying, I experienced a new level of connection, a new level of vulnerability. It was one of the most beautiful experiences of my life. Of course it was painful, the worst pain I had felt up to that point in my life. He was as real as I had ever experienced him. This was 1996 and I knew then, that at some point, I wanted to support the dying and their families.
Fast forward to 2018, two of my amazing teachers taught a Death and Dying Workshop. I could hardly wait to attend. I remember the moment the light-bulb went off for me. They suggested that we should live each day as if we might die tomorrow. And further described three items to talk about with the person facing death, and that is to ask if they have any unfinished business. Do they have any regrets? Do they need to forgive anyone? And do they need to apologize to anyone.
I feel I have come full circle from supporting my dying dad in 1996 to 2018. I know I can help others become complete with their losses so they can live their lives as if they could die tomorrow, able to feel real joy.
Why do we need to wait until we are facing death to start living? Why not start now?
I would love to work with you and can do so individually or in a group setting. I also offer the Helping Children with Loss program as well as the Pet Loss program. I can work via a secure online connection if you do not live in Colorado Springs.
I look forward to talking with you and supporting you through your journey!