For 17 years I assisted people faced with unimaginable grief and loss through my work as a Victim Services Coordinator. I was often one of a small group of people who had the heartbreaking task of telling people their loved one had died.
During those years, I learned much about loss and grief and the impact grief had on people, but I always felt there was something missing. I remember telling people that in time the loss would become easier to face because time was a gift. I remember encouraging them to be strong and keep busy...
These words meant to soothe and encourage were told to me as a child with the losses I faced… my parents were also told the same.
A few years ago, I had a significant loss in my life. This was not my first loss, I lost both of my grandparents and my dad within 18 months all before I turned 16 years old. I also lost many beloved pets, a job, a baby, a boyfriend, and I also lost trust.
This was the death of my ex-husband.
The moment I learned he died, I felt broken and so sad. Feelings that surprised me because we had been divorced for 12 years. I had my cry and then kicked into mom mode because my 3 adult kids would be arriving at my house and they needed me to be strong.
They became my focus and I was busy making sure I was taking care of everyone.
I was strong.
No one seen my tears because there were no more tears once they arrived.
Nearing the 1-year anniversary of this death, I was contacted by my coworker from the funeral home who does the Grief Recovery program for them. He was piloting a 6-week course called, “When Children Grieve” and would I be interested in participating. I immediately said yes and my motivation was to learn how to help my children and grandchildren.
Losses in my life I believed I had safely stored in my backpack “out of sight, out of mind” I realized, were impacting every aspect of my life. Everything I thought I knew, from the time I was a little girl, everything I said to people who had lost loves ones, everything I did…. I now learned there was a better way… The Grief Recovery Method. I enrolled and within 4 weeks of finishing the group was certified as a Grief Recovery Specialist.
I am proud to offer One on One, Groups, Pet loss, Helping Children Grieve to Lethbridge, Alberta and Southern Alberta. I can also provide online One on One Grief Recovery worldwide.
I am a Registered Social Worker and also work part time at the longest serving funeral home in the city.
I cannot express enough, my gratitude for the Grief Recovery Method. I have tried other grief programs this past year and quit them as they triggered me so much. This book and program were so well written and facilitated that I am looking forward to completing the rest of my losses. I believe this method works and is so exceptional that I am considering becoming a Grief Recovery Specialist. Thank you to John and Russel and all the amazing people at the Grief Recovery Institute and my Grief Recovery Specialist Lorri. You have changed my life and helped me learn a healthy way to recover from my losses. Thank you!!!Support GroupsParticipant in Lethbridge, AB03/07/2023
The program has brought out some things that have been forgotten about, good and bad. I found that it brought out things from my sub conscience. It's good to say things out loud with another person listening. Things that you didn't realize had such an impact on your life. It was effective to make the life and relationship graphs. The letter that was written at the end was a form of release.Support GroupsParticipant in Lethbridge, Alberta03/07/2023
The program helped me to think about things from my past that needed to be dealt with. There were many good things, like first day of school, scouts and other related happy memories and there was also sad or things I may have been sad or ungrateful about. I was able to look at them all and share these feelings with another very trusted group partner. Some emotions I had not shared with any body else.Support GroupsParticipant in Lethbridge, Alberta11/08/2022
I did find the first 3-4 weeks quite slow, with all these rules I found opposing to my ideas of empathy and understanding. But as the weeks progressed I realized the first half of the course was setting the stage, teaching us new valuable ideas to not only deal with our grief, but also dealing with someone else's grief and what should and should not be said or done. By the last week and last exercise, the concept made much more sense and I appreciated how our Facilitator, Lorri, outlined weekly what to do, and lured us to come back to complete the process. I would recommend this, and even suggest it before someone ends up with a backpack full such as what I came in with. Thank you LorriSupport GroupsParticipant in Lethbridge, AB11/07/2022
The program gave me insight on how to complete all losses I have had. It was interesting to learn that I could actually follow the grief support method with a living person or life-changing event. I will be going through this process for more of the losses in my life. Thank you for the opportunity to learn how to properly complete losses in my life; this course is has been such a valuable tool for me and I will continue with the process as I move forward in my life.Support Groups03/22/2022
The program presented a very specific and unique path to recovery. The facilitators guided our group through the steps with honesty and in a caring manner. They demonstrated very clear exercises consistent with the handbook. They then explained what we were to complete for the next week. Each of these exercises were fundamental steps to the next weeks work. The goal is to have a complete grief experience and this certainly happened for me.Support Groups03/22/2022