For 17 years I assisted people faced with unimaginable grief and loss through my work as a Victim Services Coordinator. I was often one of a small group of people who had the heartbreaking task of telling people their loved one had died.
During those years, I learned much about loss and grief and the impact grief had on people, but I always felt there was something missing. I remember telling people that in time the loss would become easier to face because time was a gift. I remember encouraging them to be strong and keep busy...
These words meant to soothe and encourage were told to me as a child with the losses I faced… my parents were also told the same.
A few years ago, I had a significant loss in my life. This was not my first loss, I lost both of my grandparents and my dad within 18 months all before I turned 16 years old. I also lost many beloved pets, a job, a baby, a boyfriend, and I also lost trust.
This was the death of my ex-husband.
The moment I learned he died, I felt broken and so sad. Feelings that surprised me because we had been divorced for 12 years. I had my cry and then kicked into mom mode because my 3 adult kids would be arriving at my house and they needed me to be strong.
They became my focus and I was busy making sure I was taking care of everyone.
I was strong.
No one seen my tears because there were no more tears once they arrived.
Nearing the 1-year anniversary of this death, I was contacted by my coworker from the funeral home who does the Grief Recovery program for them. He was piloting a 6-week course called, “When Children Grieve” and would I be interested in participating. I immediately said yes and my motivation was to learn how to help my children and grandchildren.
Losses in my life I believed I had safely stored in my backpack “out of sight, out of mind” I realized, were impacting every aspect of my life. Everything I thought I knew, from the time I was a little girl, everything I said to people who had lost loves ones, everything I did…. I now learned there was a better way… The Grief Recovery Method. I enrolled and within 4 weeks of finishing the group was certified as a Grief Recovery Specialist.
I am proud to offer One on One, Groups, Pet loss, Helping Children Grieve to Lethbridge, Alberta and Southern Alberta. I can also provide online One on One Grief Recovery worldwide.
I am a Registered Social Worker and also work part time at the longest serving funeral home in the city.
The program gave me insight on how to complete all losses I have had. It was interesting to learn that I could actually follow the grief support method with a living person or life-changing event. I will be going through this process for more of the losses in my life. Thank you for the opportunity to learn how to properly complete losses in my life; this course is has been such a valuable tool for me and I will continue with the process as I move forward in my life.Support Groups03/22/2022
The program presented a very specific and unique path to recovery. The facilitators guided our group through the steps with honesty and in a caring manner. They demonstrated very clear exercises consistent with the handbook. They then explained what we were to complete for the next week. Each of these exercises were fundamental steps to the next weeks work. The goal is to have a complete grief experience and this certainly happened for me.Support Groups03/22/2022
After my beloved dog died, I was lost. I struggled to make it through the day and each moment I was on the verge of tears and collapse. My heart was broken and no one really cared because it was "Just a dog'. I was on facebook one evening and an ad came up about pet loss being as real as people loss with grief. I felt like it was there especially for me. I clicked on it and was taken to a facebook page where it was filled with kindness and so gentle. I messaged Lorri and we met on Zoom to talk about the program. I was so desperate I decided to give it a try. We met in person for the 6 weeks and she was there for me when ever I needed help or support. Were there tears? Yes there were many but as the weeks went on the tears felt different. I learned that tears are okay and with Lorri was a safe space to let them fall. I am so proud that I finished this program and have healed my heart! I still miss Luna, my beloved baby girl, but I am able to talk about her without all the pain I felt before. I am forever grateful. Lorri also told me about the podcast her and a colleague do and each new episode I am filled with hope. I am looking forward to attending an 8 week program this fall to start healing my heart on the many other losses I have. Thank you Grief Recovery Method and thank you Lorri for your kind gentle heart.xoPet Loss Support Groups06/03/2021
The program helped me gain emotional peace with my loss and to understand the misguided messages of the culture around me and its expectations.1-on-1 Support12/29/2020
One evening my life became unbearable. I had experienced a loss and the pain was too great and I decided I did not want to live any more. Thankfully friends found me and took me to the local hospital and what happened there changed my life forever. An ER doctor after hearing my story told me about a woman in the city that he knew of that worked with people who had experienced losses in their life and he said after working with her, their lives changed. He gave me her phone number and encouraged me to call her. The next morning I phoned Lorri and we talked for almost an hour. During that time I felt cared for and that she heard every word I said, and she didn't judge me at all which was not something I was used to because I always felt judged. I decided to give the 1 on 1 program a shot because honestly what did I have to lose? Each week Lorri and I would have our session and each week of the journey I learned more than I ever imagined. Lorri would use examples from her own losses to demonstrate and explain the concepts and this helped me so much. I realized that in my life I had experienced so many losses and I did exactly what I was taught to do, I put them in my backpack and tried to ignore them. Lorri was available to answer any questions I had by email, text or phone and her answers were always explained in a way that I could understand. This woman has changed my life! I am excited to be alive now and I know how to complete other losses in my life now too thanks to Lorri and The Grief Recovery Program! I also want to add, a few weeks after finishing the program, a small parcel arrived in the mail. I opened it up and in there was a small rose quartz heart with a hand written note from Lorri. This heart was sent as a reminder of the work we did so I could heal my broken heart. Thank you.1-on-1 Online Support12/14/2020
I now have the tools to help deal with any grief / loss and help my family and friends when they are dealing with their grief / losses.Support Groups12/09/2020