A Grief Support Blog

This blog will allow you the opportunity to acquire both support and guidance after experiencing a significant loss.

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The events leading up to the Santana High School shooting

On March 5, 2001, Charles “Andy” Williams went to school armed with a .22 caliber revolver. On Thursday, August 14, 2002, “Andy” was sentenced to 50 years to life for the shooting deaths of two classmates and the wounding of thirteen others.

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  • Sep 23, 2002
  • Russell Friedman
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Grief by any other name; Fort Bragg autopsy

An enormous amount of time, energy, emotion, and money will be spent looking for answers and explanations in the aftermath of the Fort Bragg cluster of murders. There will be lots of talk of post-traumatic stress syndrome, depression, stress, and anger. The pundits-that-be may even coin a new phrase to explain why returning U.S.

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  • Aug 07, 2002
  • Russell Friedman
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Financial Grief: Can a downturn create grief?

In the past couple weeks we have seen tens of thousands of words written in major publications about the plight of retirees and others who depend on investments to support their golden years. Relatively little has been written about recovering from the emotional wounds that invariably accompany financial loss and insecurity.

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  • Jul 26, 2002
  • Russell Friedman
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Avoiding unhelpful myths and traps after losing a child

Undoubtedly, the family and loved ones of Samantha Runnion are devastated by the tragic, incomprehensible death of the precious little girl who was there, then gone, and will not return.

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  • Jul 02, 2002
  • Russell Friedman
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9/11 Tragedy: What a difference a day makes

Memorial Day as we know it today began as Decoration Day in 1866 in upstate New York after the cessation of the Civil War. First conceived as a homage to those who had given their lives, it soon evolved to also honor those who had survived. Within two years it was renamed Memorial Day, and over time came to symbolize our community need to stay ever mindful of those who had sacrificed their lives for our freedoms. Although the official birth of this annual event was in the North, the Southern states had parallel ceremonies, which were eventually joined as the national holiday we commemorate every year.

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  • May 03, 2002
  • Russell Friedman
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How to plan funerals and other conclusionary rituals

Things you need to know about funerals and memorial services.

The events of September 11, 2001 continue to dominate our hearts and minds as we grapple with the aftermath of that almost unfathomable tragedy. In the days and weeks to come, the issue of funerals and memorial services will move to the forefront as a major topic for discussion. As an organization that is recognized as a worldwide authority on grief and recovery from significant emotional loss we feel obliged to share information based on our twenty-five years of experience in these matters.

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  • Jan 02, 2002
  • Russell Friedman
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Recovering from loss & adapting to a new reality

When my mother died suddenly nine years ago, I was thrown into the vortex of human emotions that almost always accompanies the sudden death of a loved one. The fact that I am an alleged expert on recovery from loss does not make me immune to pain.
 
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  • Nov 09, 2001
  • Russell Friedman
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Talking to your children about 9/11

HOW TO ADDRESS YOUR CHILDREN

September 11, 2001 now enters our language in the same emotional way as December 7, 1941 and November 22, 1963. Most people remember where they were when they found out about Pearl Harbor and about the shooting of John F. Kennedy. For most people, their first awareness of those events came on the radio. As photo images trickled in from Pearl Harbor, and televised images filtered in from Dallas, the tragic news we had heard was matched by visual pictures.

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  • Oct 23, 2001
  • Russell Friedman
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Death of a long term spouse. Legacy of love or monument to misery.

When long-term relationships end due to death of one of the partners, there is an inevitable adjustment to the new reality of life without someone who has always been there. Adaptation to the radical changes in life following the death of a loved one is either enhanced or limited by the ideas that we have learned over our lifetimes about dealing with loss.

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  • Jul 26, 1994
  • Russell Friedman
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Losing a pet: Grieving the loss of a friend

Losing a pet can be one of the most painful experiences a person can have. There is much talk in today's world about unconditional love. It would be wonderful if human beings were capable of such a thing. The sad truth is that we fall short of the mark. While unconditional love is probably impossible, it is a wonderful goal and we should continue to strive for it.

Unconditional Love

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In reality, the closest thing to unconditional love we ever perceive is that which we sense from our pets. Even then, there are a few conditions. After we have fed them and their other basic needs have been met, animals are unconditional. We have yet to hear that someone's dog, cat, parakeet or hamster judged them or criticized them or called them stupid.

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  • Jun 29, 1994
  • Russell Friedman
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