A Grief Support Blog

This blog will allow you the opportunity to acquire both support and guidance after experiencing a significant loss.

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Bereavement Help: A few reasons why avoiding emotions hurts you

"He can run, but he can't hide." That famous expression is attributed to heavyweight boxing champ Joe Louis, in 1946. Joe's statement was in reaction to being told that his next opponent, Billy Conn, was very fast and would run around the ring a great deal to try to avoid getting hit by Mighty Joe.

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  • Oct 14, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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An emotional weekend

I started last Saturday at a funeral and ended it at a wedding. Many tears and tissues later when I got home, I was drained. Granted, different kinds of tears for each event, but huge wellsprings of emotions erupted within me. I hit several gushers. In the morning, I stood in a chapel at a cemetery with 100 others, most of whom I knew.  My dear friend, Raymond, who had died, was Chinese.

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  • Sep 23, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Mourning the deaths of celebrities we loved

It's late at night in the editorial office of a major metropolitan newspaper. The office, near the top of a high-rise building, is nearly deserted. There are only a few lights on. It's very quiet except for the clacking of a single computer keyboard. A lone reporter sits in his cubicle putting the finishing touches on his latest assignment. In a pause-to-think moment he stops typing.

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  • Sep 22, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Moving can be traumatic

There's a reason that the Wednesday edition of the Grief Recovery Update is arriving on Thursday. No, the dog didn't eat my homework, but he did cause a real big problem in our lives, but that's another story, for another time. The big reason was that Wednesday was escrow closing day on the house that Alice and I bought here in Southern California.

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  • Sep 04, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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No time like the present

We're hard approaching the second remembrance of the tragic events of 9/11/2001, less than a month away.

It is sometimes said that there are lessons in these kinds of events. Pundits say that we can learn from tragedy. Maybe that's so. But what exactly are the lessons? And who's teaching them?

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  • Aug 06, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Talking about grief in the media: We can help!

I was heading to the park with my dog at the end of an emotionally exhausting day of writing - in between six million phone calls [and you know I never exaggerate]. My car radio was tuned to the AM talk-radio station I usually listen to at that time of day. I like the host. He's well spoken, with strong opinions, but a nice manner.

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  • Jul 03, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Scattering the ashes of a loved one

There are more than one million empty graves in the United States; graves with inscribed head stones or metal markers, but with neither a casket, a body, nor even an urn with ashes inside. You probably don't know the explanation for this strange phenomenon. July 16, 2003 will mark the fourth anniversary of the tragic deaths of John F.

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  • Jun 27, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Where have you been? Why didn't you call?....and better ways to say I love you

Middle America - End of May, 1973: It was past midnight.  I had just been to the last official event of my senior year in high school with all my chums. I was very late coming home. As I pulled in the driveway I saw the curtains move in my mother’s bedroom window. She’d been watching out the window for me to return. I was 18. I was a responsible young woman.

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  • Jun 06, 2003
  • Lois Hall, MS
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Helping employees who are grieving

Most people don’t talk about funerals. But we are not most people, and especially not as it relates to the topic of the conclusionary rituals that signify the end of physical life on this planet. We know a lot of people who don’t "do" funerals and don’t say "goodbyes" because of the misinformation and taint associated with both.

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  • May 28, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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Should I take a pill for my grief?

The idea of ink-stained fingers dates back to my childhood. I am just old enough to have written with real pens and ink wells, before the dawn of the retractable ball-point pen; a distant memory of a simpler time. Today, when I write, I worry more about carpal tunnel syndrome than I do about blotching the paper or my fingers with ink. Now it's about ergonomics, not smudges.

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  • May 02, 2003
  • Russell Friedman
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