My heart is warmed and grateful you stopped by! You may be wondering, "What can Rachelle possibly know about heartache?" May you find something that speaks to you in the short note below...
I remember being somewhere near 10 years old crying myself to sleep each night; there was a deep pit of despair that had already been buried deep beneath the surface of my soul. Though not religious, someone had given me a Bible. Secretly I'd read bits of that confusing Book, trying to remember pieces of it, just before "praying" to a God I had NOT been taught about to "use me to help his hurting children someday." Quite an awareness for a young child! Low and behold, the Universe heard my plea.
By the tender age of 10, I was no stranger to more moves than I could count on two hands, enough schools to match my grade level, lost friends a plenty, sexual abuse, abandonment, emotional torture, racism, bullying, belittling, and insanely scary nightmares. Coping and survival was found in keeping people happy...and food!
My breaking point came in 2016 when my phone rang early one morning informing me that my (estranged) father had died by suicide and that I was going to need to identify then release his body. The heavy burden of my past coupled with this new blow was more than I could bear. For two weeks I sat in a dark and dingy fog, unable to make sentences nor move... though, not until my husband and children had arrived safely at work and school for the day. I was, after all, a master at keeping up appearances and people-pleasing.
Never could I have imagined that my deepest pit of despair could eventually be the catalyst to a sunshine in my soul more vibrant than all of my imagination; a rediscovery of joy. That foggy mind had me paralyzed with fear that I might be low enough to take my own life by suicide, which would have left my children motherless. Therein lay my final straw! I knew someone who taught Grief Recovery and, in fear for my life, mustered up my courage to call.
That was the exact moment my soul lurched toward sureness with an intensity that I could not ignore. My personal 8-week class was difficult! Painful even. Like you'd expect serious healing to be, I guess. On the other side of that short-lived pain however, was a light I had never experienced before--in my eyes, in my step, in my heart, in my spirit. For nearly a year I kept going back to work for my personal recovery, one baby step at a time.
All those little steps led me to a solid march into a Grief Recovery Method training (7 times so far!) so I could officially pay forward what I'd personally known and experienced to give life to others who might be hurting like I once was. I FELT BETTER in the deepest parts of my soul and this time I knew it was FOR GOOD. Who doesn't want/need that!
Before this life as an Advanced Grief Recovery Method Specialist, I married at 19, served 7 years with my husband in the US Air Force working as a surgical ICU nurse, now a disabled veteran, then became a full-time wife and mom. My days are spent serving my family, clients, and community of Valencia/Santa Clarita, CA, and spreading helpful tips and actions for recovery through professional public speaking. Oh, and those tools I learned and now teach? Yeah, I still use them. Every. Single. Day! Join me, #HeartbreakHacker, to be the #RealYOUwell!
Before this life as an International Advanced Grief Recovery Method Specialist, I married at 19, served 7 years beside my husband in the US Air Force as a surgical ICU nurse, now a disabled veteran, then became a full-time wife and mom. My days are spent serving my family, students, and volunteering in my local community, as well as spreading helpful tips and actions for emotional recovery while growing emotional intelligence through professional CRITICAL INCIDENT STESS MANAGEMENT. Oh, and those tools I learned and now teach? Yeah, I still use them. Every. Single. Day!
•Grief Recovery Method, 2 1/2-day Workshop or 8-week
•Helping Children with Loss, 4-sessions
This program is absolutely life-changing. I went into it curious and a little stand-offish. I heard about it from a friend who explained how broad grief is and I decided to pursue it. I am so glad I did. I feel transformed. I got to work with Rachelle and felt heard and validated and seen and learned healthier ways to cope and process my grief. I plan to keep pursuing completions because for as light as I feel after completing the first round, I can't imagine how amazing it will be to continue to complete and process the grief I've held inside for many years.1-on-1 Online SupportParticipant in Dublin, CA10/01/2020
The tools from The Grief Recovery Method are invaluable. I have a new skill set that I will use in my daily life.1-on-1 SupportParticipant in Santa Clarita, CA08/31/2020
It has given me the tools to work through my anxiety, grief, loss and cope with grief from moments in my life.1-on-1 Online SupportParticipant in Valencia , Ca08/05/2020
It has helped reduce the heaviness I felt towards certain people and situations in my life. It helped me learn how to look at the past as a whole and give me the tools to take charge and change/reframe/ complete my grief for items in the past and going forward.Support GroupsParticipant in Santa Clarita, CA05/19/2020
The program has completely changed my life. I truly am so thankful for the tools taught to me to help me handle the grief that is in my heart. I am now able to connect better with others, I have a stronger relationship with family, and when a tragic situation occurs, I have tools to help me manage my emotions. This program is so special and I really hope more people are able to experience the tools taught through the Grief Recovery Method.Support GroupsParticipant in Newhall , CA12/18/2019
This program has helped me to understand that you can forgive and apologize without blame. In review, I have concluded that forgiveness is about me not the other person. I cannot expect that I should hold myself hostage from those who have passed on or those who are living. I can apologize for the things I have done wrong because I am not perfect and acceptance of that apology is up to the other person. I must move on.2 1/2 Day Personal WorkshopsParticipant in Newhall, California08/29/2019