Testimonials For One-on-One Support
Many people are concerned about trying to deal with their grief. But the process that Charmissa uses helps you work through your grief. Allowing you to address the pain which is very important. The GRM is worth every tear, and every ounce of effort. As Charmissa would say “it’s some hard heart work”. Without realization I have recommended Charmissa to so many people because of her soothing voice and charismatic personality. Her personality, tone and demeanor is amazing. She is very personable and comforting. I would highly recommend her to each and every person who not only needs assistance with grief recovery but to anyone who could use some guidance.
One-on-One Support04/27/2023Participant in Stephen City, VA
The programme is hard, in that you do need to be completely honest and confront things that you may have kept hidden for a long time, it can be painful revisiting trauma or loss, and very emotional, but it is so worth it in the end. I have learnt so much about myself through the program, why I do certain things, where my personality traits have come from and what has led me to where I am today. I am so much more aware and knowledgeable in the field of grief, and I know this will only help me in the future. You can’t ever get over losing someone or just put it behind you, but you can lighten your emotional load, recognise when things have become overwhelming and relieve the pressure you put upon yourself by using this method. In my opinion, after loss, this work is essential to maintain good physical and mental health. After completing the programme, I was exceptionally proud of the achievements that I had made and the things that I had accomplished, I felt free.
One-on-One Support04/26/2023Participant in Pewsey, England
One-on-One Support04/20/2023Participant in Columbus, Ohio
The program really helped me look deep into my past and the experiences that affected me that I didn’t even realize affected me. It helped me come out of the fog of grief and provided me with the tools I need to move forward in a healthy way. It has given me the foundation I need in order to move forward in my life and a whole new perspective on how to handle everything. It truly was life changing for me.
One-on-One Support04/19/2023Participant in Vermilion, AB
One-on-One Support04/17/2023Participant in Duluth, MN
Time will tell. At this point I deeply miss my darling wife but do not feel the overwhelming weight of grief on my heart. I look forward to resuming some of my passions that I set aside. It is a new start the next chapter.
One-on-One Support04/12/2023Participant in Carlsbad, CA
I was truly amazed how much relief I had after writing the letter and reading it out loud. I didn't realize that writing was so therapeutic.
One-on-One Support04/12/2023Participant in San Jose, California
The “star system” seems to have a glitch. They all popped up…I found the program excellent.
One-on-One Support04/11/2023Participant in Grand Bend, Ontario
One-on-One Support04/11/2023Participant in Grand Bend, Ontario
The program really helped explain everything in an easy and different way. We get caught up in our emotions a lot of the time, so it's easy to get stuck or confused about things. The program laid it all out while still giving you goals to work towards. I really liked it and I'm thankful for the change in my life it provided. My one constructive criticism, and I mean a very small one, is maybe to find a way to make the ending letter a little more personable. The layout makes it very similar to the statements and and feelings section. I would just have liked to include those statement or emotions, but somehow made it more like a real personable letter. Thank you so much for the help!
One-on-One Support04/10/2023Participant in Centerburg, OH
One-on-One Support04/07/2023Participant in Overland Park, KS
It has helped me work through multiple deaths amd relationship losses amd has definitely helped me in my day to day life.
One-on-One Support04/02/2023Participant in Ontario, OR
One-on-One Support04/01/2023Participant in Overland Park, Kansas
Molly Steele not only helped me I have a new friendship that I will cherish forever
One-on-One Support03/31/2023Participant in Wimberley, Texas
The program has helped to work through my grief and see that there is a better and brighter future. The loss of my close friend put me into a slump, but this program pushed me to complete that part of my life and learn to move forward while still remembering my fond memories of my friend.
One-on-One Support03/30/2023Participant in Saipan, MP
One-on-One Support03/28/2023Participant in Murfreesboro, TN
LeAnzar (Facilitator) was a great help to me and showed immense empathy and compassion for my loss.
One-on-One Support03/25/2023Participant in Las Vegas, Nevada
Talking my grief through with my facilitator and sharing my thoughts as dispassionately as I could will I hope enable me to have a more positive view of my situation
One-on-One Support03/24/2023Participant in Gomshall, Surrey
When I was first given the book by a counsellor, I reluctantly started to read it. I was reluctant because I had researched grief and believed that my problems were centred around grief, but I didn't really fit into the model of the 7 stages of grief...so I gave up on the idea of grief until I started to read your book. When I first starting reading the book, I was skeptical because the book initially seemed too simplified, and I initially thought that the book would really have nothing to offer me, but none the less I continued to read it, and do the activities. What I didn't have was a partner to work with and initially, as part of my scepticism, I thought it will be fine to do this on my own. I got to the part of the book where I would write my loss graph and I dutifully mapped out my loss graph, and suddenly when looking at it on paper, I realized the magnitude of my losses and grief. It suddenly became very clear to me that, indeed, I am suffering deep loss and grief. It was also at this point that I realized that the book had a great deal to offer and in fact was not oversimplified. In fact, I realized that there was no way I was going to be able to do this alone, and that I needed direction and guidance to find my way through this ocean of grief. I emailed the institute and was willing to travel from Canada to take a workshop or do sessions with someone qualified in this method, and my email was promptly returned saying that there was a grief specialist in my area. I reviewed the different counsellors and choose one. I have not looked back. Marcia and I started at the beginning and even that was helpful because I realized how much misinformation I had and I also began to really think about my STERBS in meaningful ways. When I initially did the work on my own I was dismissive, so it was only once I got into the loss graphs that I fully understood how those first chapters are critical to my understanding and my relationship with grief and loss. I came to this program after suffering a deep loss around my divorce three years ago. I was consumed by this loss, stuck, paralyzed for 3 years...I couldn't navigate my way through it. I was critical of myself that still after 3 years, I was not moving on. I told my story of grief and woe so often to anyone who would listen that even I was tired of my story of grief and woe. Interestingly, I did not begin my first relationship graph with this loss, I started with the loss of my relationship with my father. A toxic relationship that I suffered through my entire lifetime, and still suffered through as I approach 60 years old. Going through this process and dealing with the relationship of my father has released me in ways that I never imagined possible. Dealing with this particular grief has started to ease me from my stuckness. The image I like to use is for the last three years I have been encased in sand with only my head sticking out. Unable to move, but after dealing with this first and important loss, the sand is falling away, I can move a little, there is some ability now to make decisions and to feel that I am healing. So even though I haven't yet dealt with my most significant loss, dealing with this one has provided me a way to begin navigating my life post divorce. I will be forever thankful that I no longer carry the burden of the toxic relationship with my father into my future. Releasing me has saved me and now I am feeling confident that I can move forward and there is hope and faith that the future will be ok. I have not felt that the future holds anything but despair for three years now. I am going to be ok. My next step is to deal with my loss of my marriage, but funnily enough, I am changing the name of the loss. Initially I called it "Steve", but now I realize that it is not "Steve" that I lost, but my marriage. I don't have to give up "Steve", but I do have to let go of wishful thinking, the hope of more or better as it relates to my lost marriage. I was reluctant to even deal with this loss a couple of months ago because it was still so raw that I thought I wouldn't be able to do it, but now I know I can, and more importantly, I am ready to do it. I also know that once I start the process of dealing with the loss of my marriage that many of the other losses will also come into play. Financial loss, life style loss, friends and family loss...an ocean of losses I will be released from so that I can move forward without laying a claim to what could have been. It is this "could have been" that I am grieving...and just knowing this has released me of my despair.
One-on-One Support03/23/2023Participant in Calgary, Alberta
The program helped me to move forward but never forget Sergio. Some of the homework was hard and I honestly didn’t have any interest in it but then I found that everything just poured out. Anna Cook my facilitator was absolutely amazing.
One-on-One Support03/22/2023Participant in Solvang, CA
One-on-One Support03/22/2023Participant in Keesler AFB, Biloxi , MS
I learned how one incident affects another situation without us even realizing it. Once I figured that out, I got to work in each situation individually.
One-on-One Support03/16/2023Participant in Wheatland, Wyoming
When I lost my father, a part of me died with him. Nothing seemed worth while and I had lost all motivation. I honestly had no idea just how much hurt the soul could endure and for the first time in my life I was truly lost. The Grief Recovery Method was very clear, to the point, very relatable and sincerely helped me unclutter my feelings and the madness in my mind so that I could process the immense amount pain in my heart. The Grief Recovery Method helped me realize that I was NOT alone and there are tools to help move forward in a healthy manner. The homework assignments are intellectually simple but emotionally challenging, which is good. I didn't cheat the process, had an open heart to what ever feelings came and took the time to follow through. They really helped set me on a correct path for heathy acceptance and helped clarify all my feelings and scattered thoughts. My life has forever changed. I still cry, I still hurt, and to some degree I always will. But that is because my love for my father and the love he had for me will always be present. I smile more and able to let the the dark thoughts pass and let the warmth come whereas before I was trapped in a dark, cold, hell-ish night. If you have experienced loss I strongly recommend the Grief Recovery Method! Don't cheat the process and have a open and honest heart. Please don't suffer in silence!
One-on-One Support03/15/2023Participant in Pacific Beach, CA
The idea of completing grief should be taught from a very early age. The incorrect strategies we are taught create so many more issues on top of the grief. I did this program because my therapist recommended it as my only way forward, either I complete it with her, or I complete it elsewhere, because I kept coming back with the same complaint: I'm not happy and I should be. I have a great life and on paper, I know this. But the feelings of joy and happiness were so muddled and I couldn't figure out why. I knew I had experienced many major losses, most in the last few years (I practically used the list of types of losses as a checklist if I'm being honest..death of pets: check, death of parent: check, major job loss: check, divorce: check, moving: check...you get the idea.) With no mental health insurance, I chose to complete it elsewhere, but I did it so that I could go back to therapy with her. It started as a means to an end. I can't say I was skeptical, I just simply "had to get it done." She and the GRM specialist I did the program with told me it was life-changing. I figured if I could stop being sad about one or two things, it might be a success. What happened was so much more. Although the homework often felt silly, each step of the way I learned something new about myself and each step, even the earliest ones, helped me realize I could close the door on some of the losses I'd experienced. Learning these steps of completion, in a structured Step A, Step B, Step C way puts the chaos of emotions into a useable, organized box so you can unpack it the right way. I've already recommended this to multiple people and I will continue to do so. There isn't a person out there that can't benefit from this information and having the skills to possibly complete grief as it happens instead of letting it accumulate can only create happier humans. Happier humans are better humans and the world needs that.
One-on-One Support03/15/2023Participant in Garden City, KS